I've always wondered about this. Even though I always offer to pay, I don't understand why if you set up a meet up with someone you met online, we men are expected to pay. I have been on countless numerous of dates from online site OKC, and everything seems to go great. I always end up paying, and majority of women don't even offer to split the bill. Mind you, this is the first time meeting this stranger, which I have no idea if it will lead to a second or third date. I understand that we men look more like gentleman's when we pay, but what do we do when we're spending money on dates with strangers that lead no where at all.
How donwe avoid this. I have tries numerous way of meeting women in like coffee shops and going for a coffee or a few drinks which seems less expensive, but we always end up going to a place where I'm spending 60 to 70 bucks on meals.
Again, I'm not saying I don't want to pay for a woman. Yes, I would be more than happy to pay for a woman that I'm dating casually, but it's its just the results of these first strings-a-long dates, that have me thinking twice now.
Most Helpful Girl
I understand exactly where you are coming from & it makes plenty of sense that you would feel this way. I almost don't know what to tell you. If you don't offer to pay then you'll seem like a cheap guy or even a jerk. Guys should pay for first dates because they want to make a good impression & show that they are chivalrous gentlemen that can take care of their women. To save money on these dates that hardly ever work out I'd say for your first time meeting how about a park. You could take a walk and get to know each other. First dates do not have to be dinner. You're only just meeting up so make it less formal & more casual. It doesn't even have to be a date, just a meetup & if you two spark then you could ask her on a date. I'd prefer to meet at a park. It removes the pressure & the atmosphere is calm & great for getting to know someone new.2
Most Helpful Guy
Of course in a ideal world yes, but as you mention the success rate of first dates is low and women can manipulate a genuine guy attempting to find a girlfriend.