So I recently moved in with my boyfriend of two years and I'm super excited that we are taking this step to strengthen our relationship! :) Of course we considered all the pros and cons and planned this for a few months and now it's finally all coming together. We have so many things planned that we would like to do together (watching movies, going on road trips, attending concerts, etc.) but I'm nervous about one thing. With this added close proximity and shared spaces, it'll be pretty hard to keep him from knowing/hearing bodily functions. I know this sounds super silly but in all the time we've know each other (2 years) he's NEVER heard me do anything unladylike or anything that would be considered "embarrassing." I just don't want him knowing any of these things happen and I need some tips on how to avoid potentially embarrassing moments. I wouldn't intentionally do anything like that in front of him but I'm worried it might happen accidentally and then I'd be mortified!! Although we are very open and honest with each other, this is not something I can ever imagine him witnessing, lol. We have a very teasing/playful relationship so I'm pretty sure I wouldn't hear the end of it and he'd probably poke fun at me long after the fact lol :P Have you ever worried about this happening in your relationship? Am I just stressing over nothing? What is the best way to avoid potentially embarrassing moments? Please share your own experiences or something that will make me less worried about all this. Thanks in advance for answering my question! :)
Most Helpful Guy
Hey come on now , bodily function is inevitable , we all do it and in all honesty your just not going to be able to get around him knowing it. Maybe this to is something that you two should discuss. Tell him that you are uncomfortable that something may happen and your not good with that. Don't be surprised or offended that he may bust out laughing. Most guys aren't hard wired to be conciounce of these things , such as passing gas ; we don't intentionally toot out own horn ( pardon the pun) but it happens. While I'm not saying be a poot popper for the heck of it , just rest assured that it won't be the end all if it happens , he will be like the rest of us and make a joke of it0
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Most Helpful Girl
You're stressing over nothing. In fact, even he is probably a little worried about controlling himself in front of you. Keep in mind your bodily functions like farting and taking a shit are normal and quite necessary. If you have to do it in front of him, do it. He should understand since you've been together long enough and he also has to do the same things. You should be able to feel comfortable with these functions in front of him if you guys see a future together.
Story to make you feel better: Well I've never really been in a relationship but I've had my fair share of moments that people would find disturbing ad awkward lol. So I have ulcerative colitis which is a chronic autoimmune disorder (so basically, it'll NEVER go away) where my colon get all inflated and irritated with ulers and blood, you know all that fun stuff lol. That also makes bowel movements harder to control and more frequent. Thus I carry an extra pair of pants and underwear in my purse or backpack where ever I go. People often see the extra clothes and ask me why the hell I need them. I explain my disease shamelessly. It's poop. It's taboo. People don't like to talk about it. But it's natural and it's not my fault I have to deal with it. And it is certainly not something I should feel ashamed about. That's why I think you and your SO should be cool with the idea you have bodily functions. They are normal and you can't avoid them. DON'T BE EMBARRASSED! If I can tell people about my problem shamelessly, you can have bodily functions in front of your boyfriend shamelessly (especially since he should be more understanding than the random people who ask me about my extra pants).0