One of my childhood friends and I ended up having drunk sex one night at a small party. This was several years ago. I felt bad about it because he had a girlfriend at the time. So, to keep the peace, I stayed away. He said he was looking for me ever since, and found me on social media. We exchanged numbers and he called me. During our conversation, he said he and the girlfriend are no longer together and she's with a new man. They still communicate because they have a child together, but he says she fights him pretty much every step of the way. He says he wants to start spending time with me, hang out, drink and have fun. Now he's texting me, calling me, and be "extra friendly". What do you think? Rebound or no?
Have you ever got with someone on the rebound? How did it turn out? I am curious!
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Rebound or no rebound, I would at least run this one through two separate tests:
1) Would you have *sober* sex with the dude?
2) (imagining the situation if you were sober) Does this pass the "fuck yeah, or no" test?
meaning, if you aren't enthusiastic enough to give it a "fuck yeah!", then, no. nothing in between. if those are the only two choices, do you give it a "fuck yeah!"?
If this fails either one of those tests, then it's probably not worth it.
I will confess ignorance to the whole drunken thing, because I've never actually been drunk before (#thegoodestbitch) ... but, if you wouldn't do the same thing sober, then, that can't be good, lol.
If it passes BOTH of those tests, then maybe go for it -- although you should still think about whether you are in this for the sex, or are open to something more than that.
* If it passes both tests and you're just in it for the sex, then, hey, go for it. Yolo, and all that. (And it'll probably be good sex -- single parents have a lot of stress to let out, that's for sure)
* If it passes both tests and you're in it for MORE than just the sex, then... remember that, once you get past a certain point, the kid is gna become part of the package deal. Is that something you'd be ok with? Especially given that, in the long term, kids often have a pretty hard time accepting step-parents?
Not something you need to have an immediate answer to... but, think about it. If this ends up being a long-term thing, it may take a lot of emotional patience (especially if the mother is a bitch and talks smack about you to the kid when yr not around).
In any case, there's some pretty heavy shit here.
And, frankly, if she is "fighting him every step of the way"... that may not speak too well for his ability to hold his own in a relationship. You feel me?
I mean, it's possible that this woman is just a nuclear bitch from hell -- but, more likely, when this happens, it tends to mean that the guy is just letting her walk all over him. If that's the case... ehhh I don't know about you, but I need a man who stands up for himself and dosen't take shit.