recently I've met this girl who is perfect in almost every way, she's beautiful, funny, sweet. I am a guy that works out and i think being healthy is important. The girl is sort of overweight (she is not obese, but she is not slim either (about 10kg overweight would be my guess)), she says that she works out to lose weight, i myself was overweight very long to and i know how difficult it is to get rid of it.. I am having some problems with some of the thoughts going through my mind, for example:
- Should i even try to change a girl like that, would that be fair?
- What if i continue dating and it doesn't change, i think eventually i would have to pull the plug out and it's not fair to put het through that
im having really double feelings, the girl could literally be the girl of my dreams, but you shouldn't have to change anyone for it..
p. s. Please don't hate, i am not trying to be a douchebag or offend anyone.
Most Helpful Girl
I never Point fingers here, dear...
If you Find many Other qualities in her that Make up for her Weight, then Unconditional love comes into the Perfect Picture. Everything you have mentioned here, tells me her Personality Highlights the Real person she is Inside as well as Outside, even if she is 'Sort of overweight.
Once you both might become these Partners, make some Team Effort to Encourage her to get right back on the Right Track again.
I feel the Chance for Romance just might be Worth its own Weight in Gold.
Good luck. xx0
Most Helpful Guy
Suggest working out together. Not only will it help motivate both of you but you'll be spending time together also. Go for walks together or bike rides, anything. When bringing up the topic to her make it about spending time together, not that she needs to loose weight.2