So i have seen her two times now. 3 weeks ago she asked me to come over to see her at her nieces place. so i did and i told her briefly in between that i thought she looked pretty, she told me i looked good as well. we left at the same time and kissed when were standing at her car. so we were texting for 3 weeks , nothing special no deep conversations. she doesn't like calling for whatever reason which i would prefer over texting. she never calls me back. as those 3 weeks passed i sort of tried to plan a 2nd date, but she told me she was busy working, school etc... to me that was a bit off, she didn't seem so busy with her exams, so i called her out and told her that she didn't seem interested in seeing me , that i couldnt understand what made it so hard for her to at least create some time for us. anyway she told me she was interested and after a few days i finally got her to meet me again. she came to my place last Thursday. we made out, i tried to have sex with her she let me do some touching but told me she didn't wanted to have sex yet which i accept. so yesterday i texted her that i liked seeing her. but no reply. she basically justs answers to my texts were she doesn't have to explain how she feels about me. when i ask her what she likes to do for a date or in her spare time she tells me'' no idea''. she does this pretty often, like i asked what her favorite vacation location is, and she told me'' no idea ;''. When i don't text her she texts me first when i take time tio reply she texts me more but whenever i pick up on her texts and try to start a convo with her i get dull replies , and she puts no effort in the convo. i see she is online but sometimes doesn't even bother to read my texts or replies way later. i really like this girl but her behaviour strikes me as if she treating me as an option. i dont know what she is doing right now, if she is seeing others or not. i basically know nothing about her. should i call her out on this
Most Helpful Girl
Start treat her like a friend. Like don't ask her how she feels about you, don't tell her you like her. Just a straight up friend, ask her about her day, her work or her school but don't share your feelings. And take your next steps with base on that. If she asks you if everything's ok or something close once you start treating her like a friend means that she likes you and maybe she just doesn't know how to put out those feelings and maybe she wanna take it slow. If she seems cool and less "scared" to talk about her real feelings means that she's liking the way you're treating her and she just want to be friends with you.0
Most Helpful Guy
"her behaviour strikes me as if she treating me as an option"
That was my gut instinct as well when reading this. There are all kinds of other possibilities as well naturally, like she could be swept up with something in her life.
My personal approach to gain sanity in these situations is to treat her as an option, see other women simultaneously, whether or not she's treating you like an option. Then she doesn't drive you insane when it's hard to meet and get any reaction out of her. It might also kind of make you more attractive to all the women involved, since you have options.0
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