I love my boyfriend so much but we fight like every other week. We hate fighting with each other but it seems to always happen we still love each other afterwards but I can't help but think that it's not healthy or I'm doing something wrong. Then I hear that a lot of people fight which makes me confused. Why do couples fight if they love each other.
Most Helpful Guy
What are you fighting about?
Ultimately it's about the fact that you aren't communicating well around sensitive/challenging topics. That's not unusual. You two might want to look at a book on how to discuss difficult topics, and see if you can get some hints.
In the mean time, if one person begins shouting, a good thing for the other person to say is "i really want to hear what you're saying, but right now all I can hear is that you're angry and yelling.". Get them to calm down and speak more clearly.1
Most Helpful Girl
Loving someone is all the more reason to fight, if you really think about it.
You place more value on the things that your lover does than what you would with a regular person. Think about it: if a stranger on the street insults you, it sucks, but you can move on because you don't know or value them. If you lover insults you, it cuts you deeper because you value what they say so much more. So if you feel wronged by your lover, it could easily cause sparks to fly for a lot of people.
There is also the whole issue of spending soooo much time together; put yourself in a place with one person long enough and you're bound to learn all of their annoying quirks and flaws.0