This is an age old topic. There are basically two types of guys. Bad ones and nice ones. Within hose two main types of course there are different degrees and personalities. Although I have never dated anyone, but been rejected many times, I feel as though I am getting passed by for others who are don't have the same morals or values that I uphold. I understand each person is different, but my problem comes from girls who say and act like they want a nice guy, but they fall for the ones who treat them wrong. I'm not saying go for me, I'm just saying pick a side. I've also been told that because of who I am the girl expects more from me than other guys. Why are my standards set so much higher? That's wrong.
Most Helpful Girl
Girls tend to want a "hunter" or a "pack leader" the kind of guy that gives off the impression that he will be a good provider and protector. It's a natural trait that women are drawn too and most of the time we don't even realize it. I've turned my back on some guys who were nice but for one reason or another, they lacked qualities I wanted.
For example one guy I was considering turned out to be completely spineless. You could've probably kicked his ass. he's nice, had a decent set up, a little broken, but ultimately he would feel threatened by guys who had a pound or more confidence than he had. The other males would sense it and brush him off and he'd get frustrated by his own weakness. It was a huge turn off. Not just to me but other girls in our social circle as well.
I knew another nice guy who was... dependent? ... in his own way. Even though we were just friends it's like he had to ask me permission to do things or ask me what he should do. Simple every day things that he should be able to decide or figure out himself like "should I use this or this?" "I don't know what I should do, what do you think?" "Can I do it this way or do it that way." And it became so frequent I was annoyed by his presence. I knew he liked me but I didn't want to be his mother.
I don't regret walking away from either of those men. Confidence is what women are attracted to. Bad boys emit this in abundance so it appears that we only gun for those types. Gain more confidence in yourself and women will notice.1
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Most Helpful Guy
I don't think this actually happens that often. What does happen is that women lower their standards as they get older and their looks fade. Suddenly the male attention they took for granted is no longer there, so they might regret not dating that pathetic guy who was always trying so hard to be nice to her, but it's not so much because she thinks he would have treated her better so much as the fact that she can no longer attract the ones she wanted.0
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