When I mention something to my boyfriend, if I tell him that I'm upset or if he did something I just tell him. The same way I expect him to talk to me if I annoy him or upset him etc. So last night, we had a date night planned, mini golf. But he went gym with his (lesbian female friend) instead and went back to hers to hang out. So our night didn't happen. He said I can come down to his when he is home. 11pm I went down. I just said to him ' why did you go back to hers after the gym when we did have something kinda planned, I'm. Not angry but it just kinda upset me' he lashed out ' Go fuc*in home I don't want you here tonight your nothing but a arsehole, I'll go to her house whenever I want, I don't wanna go stupid mini golf I'm not spending money for us to go do that!!' ( him and his friend went for dinner on Wednesday together) I said you went out with her for dinner and you do more things with her then me he said ' SHE HAS HER OWN MONEY SHE'S NOT LIKE YOU' ( I lost my job a month ago) he stared saying he didn't no if he wants to be with me now and that I had to leave straight away and not to come back to his. he called me a bitch and a arsehole. He started guilt trip me, saying ' I got u chocolates and treats, there all nicely put put on my bed for you was gonna surprise you but now u have ruined the night!!!' He said ' this is my reaction to what you say to me' he said I make him so angry, and I'm jealous of his friend Emma** he also called me 'poison' I can swear that I did not go mad at him or say anything rude or mean. I just said why did u go to hers when you new we planned date night. I told him I feel like I'm below his friend he said ' awh shut the fu*k up your always complaining , your such an arsehole ' I have never even met this friend. He won't let me. I just can't speak my mind ever or something like this will happen. He threw a towel at me, lunged at me, is this abuse? 😢😢😢
Most Helpful Guy
Okay there is a lot to cover so listen up. First of reason why you haven't met his female friend is because she is not a lesbian and odds are good that he has been cheating on you. Sorry for the bad news I'm sure you think he would never do that but add it all up he's distant from you pushes you away stays over at her place all the time is aggressive towards you. All of it adds up he's been cheating on you and is treating you like crap because of his own insecurity. I mean I really don't now how you haven't added this up by now you need to leave him and stay away from him for your own safety. Secondly yes he is abusive currently only verbally but he has been showing signs that show soon he will become physically abusive to you if you don't leave him soon. Third thing is that when he puts all the problems on you that is called manipulation he is just manipulating the situation to make you look like the bad one when obviously your not you need to stop letting him treat you like that and leave. The funny thing is I'll bet that when you do leave him he'll try to keep you around and do nice things for like a moment don't let that fool you he'll just start being shity again. The reality is that your better than this and than him and white frankly you deserve better than someone like him who treats you baddly and calls you names and who will be physically abusive if you don't leave him. Plus it's obvious he's already cheating on you; the point is you don't need this drama and this way of life especially when you know that you can do better than him and his bullshit and I promise you can do better than him. So don't hold yourself back anymore leave him and even if he feels nothing about you being gone that's ine because you need someone better than him someone who's going to respect you for who you are and love you someone that won't hurt you mentally or physically and whom wants you to be happy and obviously someone who isn't a cheater which your man really is dear you need to except that as fact at this point. The reality is you can do better so break up with him and don't let him manipulate you in to staying or anything dumb like that you are better and deserve better. That's my two cents about it Iwihwish you luck in whatever it is you decide and in life and future love. I know if you leave you'll find happiness I wish you good luck dear.2
Most Helpful Girl
UGH! This guy sounds miserable. I mean who skips out on date night with their girlfriend to go to the gym? LIKE REALLY? This guy sounds like a real piece of work. I honestly think you deserve better.
Sounds to me like he treats you like crap. You aren't asking for much. If he's worried about money, then there are always free things you can do. Like a movie night in the house, or a walk on the beach, or even a picnic. I can see being concerned with money. But if he's throwing things at you and blowing off dates, then he's not a very good boyfriend at all.
He could have told you money was the issue instead of just blowing you off. Also he did go out for dinner, so how was that not spending money?
It sounds like he's pretty selfish, everything must be how he wants. Sometimes in relationships you have to compromise. He should do some things to make you happy and vice versa. But it sounds like you are the one who always has to bend for him. That's not fair.
He's throwing stuff at you, and making you feel guilty for asking for his time. That is emotional and physical abuse. You need to get out of this relationship fast!1