This is a huge weakness of mine... I never know if I should pull away from physical contact, reject the kiss, just tell him through text afterwards? i hate hurting people's feelings. So in your opinion... What's the best way to show your not interested during or after a first date?
Most Helpful Guy
I'd probably say getting right to the point and not waiting. If you wait to text him afterwards so much 💩 would have gone through his mind after your first date and he is probably very happy and excited to date you again so he will be even more devastated when you tell him you don't feel the same way
No matter what you are going to have to tell him that you don't want to date again cause doing stuff like "sure we can get together again sometime" but not really cause you won't respond to his texts or tell him over text instead of in person.
Ultimately, just say straight up to the dude before you say bye "I had fun hanging out with you (his name) but I don't feel this being more than a friendship" (if you want to still be friends with him
If not then say something like "you seem like a good guy but I personally don't see myself dating you" keep it nice and simple and dont start by saying details about how good he is (to make him feel better) cause then he will think you are deeply "in love" with him and he just has to try harder.1
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Most Helpful Girl
Thank them for the date and explain I'm not interested in another.
If they ask, I will explain why. My last date, the guy was so self absorbed it was obnoxious.
Everything he and I tried to talk about, he'd make it about him somehow.
I don't ghost people. He took ot rather badly, but did thank me for being "honest".2