She is a cute shy homeschooled women. When we met two years ago I freindzoned her hard because I never even considered her a possible date because I did not consider her my type. A small social group formed of 6 of us 3 girls 2 guys. If you can guess what happened scroll down and comment what you think will happen in the group. Anyways I got close to her, her sis and best freind. We go to a concert and the guy says put your arm over the person next to you. We always hug goodbye so I thought sure why not. Then he mentioned that the guys were happy because this was their chance. I panicked cause her mom was with us and chickened out. I expected her to just put her arm around me no problem. She did not move. I'm guessing she froze also. The next week the group fell apart. Long story short her best freind and the other girl realized that I was keeping the group together and somewhat controlling communication because everyone was complaining to me and because I'm a guy and no guy is never any good. So they shot the middle man that was holding it all together quite soon the group fell apart. The girl that I like had joined in giving me the silent treatment with her best freind and sis. I messaged her hello and she messaged me Hi!. She never replied back after that until latter. Now I'm feeling betrayed and wondering if I'm going to be friends with her and her sis. I decide to, and for the first time she actually helped me clean up. Later that month her sister got sick so we awkwardly get more used to talking alone. We were friends again so why do I still always want to be with her? I had started liking her more. When I asked God why I like her it might kill my friendship in my prayers he was silent. At church when I was focused on God I felt him say that "I needed to". A retreat came up two weeks latter. During my quiet time alone there. I asked God why her why can't I meet someone new to date? I don't want to risk my friendship with her that I just reestablished.
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I know how you feel. I have asked God that very same question about the relationship I am in now. My boyfriend and I were great friends for some time before we got into a relationship. I'd fallen for him a few months after he and I met and I couldn't understand why since, like you, I thought he wasn't my type. I prayed about it and prayed about it. I didn't want to lose the friendship I had with him but there was an undeniable sense of love for him that kept growing every time I saw him. I never got a clear answer about why so when he asked me to be his girlfriend, I followed my heart and said yes. As time went on and the roller coaster that is love went on, I found myself asking God if there was anyway my boyfriend and I could go back to being "just friends" and I could meet someone new to date. It wasn't because I wasn't in love with my boyfriend because I was (and still am) but I didn't want to loose the one friend that I knew I could trust with anything. Furthermore, I didn't want to hurt him or myself.
This time God gave me an answer. I couldn't stop caring and loving my boyfriend because we are meant to be.
So here is my advice to you... build your friendship with her first. Once you feel you have a strong friendship again, try to imagine how you would feel if she moved away and you never got to see her again. How would you feel? If the thought of losing her makes you physically sick then you love her and need to tell her how you feel and ask her to be your girlfriend. If you are only upset by the idea then you are probably better to just stay as friends.
Also, look for a reason that God may have brought you back into her life and her into yours. For example: Is there some type of healing that you need support going through? Did she have something bad happen to her that you could help her work through? If you can think of something that would allow you to support her or her to support you then God may have brought you back together so that you can be there for each other throughout all the things life throws at you.1
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Okay, so I get that you just want christian GaGers, but I'm gonna post anyway because I'm just like that.
To start off with you sound like your more anxious about asking a girl out on a date then *I* am. And I'm pretty bad.
" When I asked God why I like her it might kill my friendship in my prayers he was silent. "
That's because talking to a fictional being tends to not have them talk back. and when they do...
" God I felt him say that "I needed to". "
" "How dare you! You ask for a Good and Godly women to cross into your path and when she does. All you can say is why her." "
It's usually seen as a sign for mental issues. Which, we've already acrued that there's some social anxiety here.
I have a hypothetical question for you, Why is it, if you like a girl as a friend, that you might begin to like her as something more if you tend to spend more time with them? I could talk to you about propinquity but I won't go there (google it! google it!), I will instead just say that If you spend a lot of time around someone then you may begin to like them like that, If I spent that much time around someone, and I actually enjoyed that time, I would want to spend more and more time with them. It's how friendships and eventually relationships are formed. (Propinquity).
To answer your actual question, " Any good suggestions Gagers? "
Don't tell her that God told you she was the one for you, I dunno about you but if someone told me that they'd like'd me for awhile but never said anything just because of a social structure of me not being their type, and they decided to go out with me only after God told them too, it would make me feel like they only wanted me because their fictional buddy told them too.
Just, go ask her out on a date.0