There is this girl that is really obsessed with me. She texts me everyday, constantly tries to get me to hang out with her, every time I see her she is really shy but never leaves my side. Her friends told me she liked me (although its pretty obvious, they didn't need to tell me), and I would be willing to date her but she is a little overweight and it is a really big turn off to me. On top of that she doesn't work out to try to get rid of the problem which I dont understand, especially since I used to be husky but worked really hard at the gym to lose that weight. I gave up drinking soda, eating fast food, and most carbs in order to keep myself in shape, the least she could do is try to lose a little weight.
I dont want to be a jerk about it because I'm not that kind of guy, but at the same time I'm not really attracted to her because of this issue. She has potential, she's a really cool girl and her face is attractive, she's just overweight and that turns me off (I'm not about the "curvy" girls as the PC media puts it, I like them skinny). What should I do?
Also, just because I've seen questions regarding overweight women in the past, I know the response I will get from a portion of people, if you are not going to give me a reasonable answer then please dont comment, I'm looking for answers, not someone to berate me for my views. Thanks.
Most Helpful Girl
Well, being overweight is not good. She should be encouraged to lose weight whether she dates you or not. Being healthy is important.
With that being said, you don't know if she had a eating disorder or a disorder that makes her fat. So trying to suggest weight loss while having a disorder would probably hurt her feelings.
You can't help who you get attracted to, so you're not at fault for how you feel towards her. However, if she is not willing to help herself, there should be no reason you gotta take the job.
You can try to bring it up casually and ask about her fitness regime. Be very subtle in how you approach it. See how she respond and feels about working out and being healthy. If she wants to but doesn't know how, encourage her to work out. Try working out with her. Get her healthy, because maybe what she needs is a partner. However, if her overall attitude towards it is not positive or she doesn't want to, then you have your answer.
Or you can try loving her for her. But attraction is something you cannot help, and you're not at fault for it.0
Most Helpful Guy
We're allowed to have preferences. Way I understood this you like her but this one thing is holding you back from being physically attracted to her. Which is often a pretty important part for being in a romantic relationship.
Honestly mate this is a rough one. You could drop a hint or two about how she'd be dropping jaws if she toned up a bit but aside from lighthearted remarks you're probably toast. Unless you play the friendship card but then there is the risk you and her will be permanently friendzoned.0