What are your relationship deal-breakers?

We all have preferences when it comes to dating and relationships. I dont really have as many deal-breakers but i would like to hear some of yours maybe i just haven't figured them all out. 1 of them is she has to be feminine, i dont think any guy would want to date a woman who doesn't act as a woman right? What are your relationship deal-breakers?


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  • One I have similar to yours is if a guy is too feminine, like more than I am since as a heterosexual girl I like to be dating a guy and not a guy who acts like a girl, but I dunno, if everything else was fine I may overlook it (unless it made me too uncomfortable). My main ones are:

    Disloyalty (Top of the list! I truly hate this one)
    Doesn't put much effort into the relationship
    Not willing to fix any problems in the relationship/change certain things for me
    Never learns from his mistakes
    Flirts with everyone
    Doesn't contact me for days without a good reason for it (I have had some of my friends tell me of their boyfriend not getting back to them for days but use poor excuses such as "Xbox" and recently one of my friends bfs didn't get back to her for a week - his excuse was that his phone needed charging and resetting so I told her that wouldn't take a week to do. I wouldn't put up with that)
    Stuck on his ex
    Likes someone more than he likes me
    Won't hold my hand in public or tell other girls he is taken (though this falls under disloyalty)
    Terrible at conversation
    Doesn't make enough effort for me
    Doesn't seem that into me
    Or alternatively - Overly sappy in a way that just comes across cringey and/or insincere

    I could go on.

    You know funnily enough, not all of this but at least half of it describes my ex...



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  • i will not date

    1. smokers
    2. loud, boisterous females
    3. low IQ women
    4. women with small children still at home
    5. drama queens
    6. women larger than 36D
    7. women who constantly criticize others
    8, women with tattoos or piercings
    9. women who drink excessively or use drugs
    10. women who believe that they are always right

    • #5,#10 Sound familiar

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    • @bobbyxx They say they want men to be honest. . . :)

    • Yes and lots of hypocrisy as well. Looking at the pink deal breakers the guy they are looking for does not exist or would be a victim of domestic abuse if they entered into a relationship with them.

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What Girls Said 44

  • I cannot with guys that:
    -are cheesey romantics, like gtfo with that movie shit
    -don't communicate well
    -hang out with other girls
    -have a temper
    -smoke/drink all the time
    -don't respect my virginity
    -are indecisive with things (stresses me out)

    • When you say " hang out with other girls", does that mean he can't have female friends? Lets say he is a guy who has more female friends than male friends. Are you not gonna let him hang out with his friends which will be mostly women?

    • No I'm saying like ex girlfriends and girls that seem like the ones to eventually cheat on me with

    • Oh ok that make sense.

  • Definitely cheating, I can deal with many things in a relationship and I am quite open minded and understanding, but I cannot abide cheats and liars. Other then that I am one of those "we can work through it" kind of people.

  • - Is a crossdresser

    - Cuddles with female friends while in a relationship with me. No hand-holding, no piggy back rides, no picking up and twirling around. Look, I'm okay with a hug, and I'm not a jealous person, but I feel some things are reserved for relationships.

    - His friends are his first priority and not me. I shouldn't feel like I have to compete for his attention nor should I feel lesser than his friends.

    - Talks about his ex too much or openly compares me to her (even if he says he isn't)

    - Manipulative: Makes me feel like I'm the crazy one. Makes me doubt myself. Turns things to look like I'm the bad guy and somehow manages to get me to do everything HE wants to do and nothing of what I want to.

    - Won't change anything for me/Unwilling to compromise and even goes as far as saying he REFUSES to compromise/change

    - Isn't a cuddly person and doesn't want to cuddle with me (and ONLY me)

    - Doesn't put the effort in to be with me or hang out with me meaning I always have to do the asking

    - Makes excuses for why he can't hang out with me (bullshit excuses)

    - Doesn't want me to get to know his friends or doesn't really make an effort for us to get to know each other or doesn't make an effort to get to know my friends

    - Hangs out/talks to his friends more than he does me

    - Allows his friends to disrespect me and telling his friends that I was uncomfortable with a friend of his touching him a certain way so that he could shift the blame onto me and basically have his friends dislike me, but still love him

    - Is too flirty with people: Especially when he is the physically flirty type (touchy w/people). Verbal flirting is annoying as well, but physical flirting is way worse for me

    - Abuses me mentally/physically

    - Deliberately goes and talks to people that he knows have hurt me or been mean and bullied me in the past because he "feels bad" for them

    - Does not like PDA /isn't affectionate

    - Treats any of my family like crap or with ANY kind of disrespect

    - Won't communicate with me when something is bothering him

    - Always wants to go dutch

    - Hangs out with female friends alone

    Yeah, I got a lot of deal-breakers. I used to be a lot more lax, but I've been dealing with so many douchebags that I had to hike up my standards.

    • Your are selfish and controlling. Any guy in a relationship with you would be a victim of domestic abuse.

    • Wow, I hear you on a lot

  • Any personality flaw such as selfish, liar, cheated, arrogant
    doesn't pay for the first date, has bad table manners, bad hygiene, smokes pot on a daily basis or does drugs a lot, has a lot of female friends, obese, too much of an introvert, has little to no ambition, keeps our relationship a secret, has no balls

    • Having too many female friends is a deal breaker? Its scary yeah but he could still be a good guy haha

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    • Why not? Why wouldn't you date a guy that has a lot of female friends? Ok so if its not ok for him to have lots of female friends then it shouldn't be ok for you to have a lot of guy friends right?

    • Which i don't.

  • If they're married or have a girlfriend. You think I'm kidding. I'm not 😑

    Liars, immature, arrogant, dumb, boring or introverted.

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  • Democrat and social liberalism are deal breakers. As is atheism since I've yet to meet a right-winged atheist. Otherwise I'm pretty open. I suppose respect for my family is a deal breaker. She has to be close and love them the way I do otherwise it will not work.

  • Cruelty through her actions or inaction
    Refusal to contemplate her blessings and the suffering of others
    Disinterest in the natural world around her
    Chronic unemployment
    Lack of drive to contribute to civilization

    by the way, these things disqualify a person from being my friend.

  • I have a list, which includes, but is not limited to:
    1. Not the same race as myself.
    2. Has been with a man of another race.
    3. Tattoos, or piercings.
    4. Unintelligent.
    5. A political leftard.
    6. A Feminist.
    7. Does not like firearms.
    8. Would hesitate to kill an intruder, or attacker.
    9. Genetic defects, which include diseases.
    10. Is not the sort of genetic material that I would want to make up 50 per cent of my children.

  • I actually hate it when girls trash their parents, even if they are bad parents...
    Also feminine at least a little bit or on occasion is nice, and too low of self esteem can be a problem.
    The last part goes with the first thing but too much gossip is a big turn off like who knows what she is saying when I am not around... Venting a problem is fine but sometimes it goes too far

  • mean. not loyal. too many tattoos and or piercings are a big turn off. also won't wait until marriage. never wants kids. can't have kids, I am not sure about that one. not supportive. grouchy all the time, I can live with them being grouchy half the time even. being very unintelligent. not adventurous at all. hates traveling wants to live next door to parents. won't let me pay for the first dates :/

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