There are many things I hate about dating.
One of the things is the inability to be vulnerable and genuine and to create a meaningful connection. (It's not impossible, but the dating rules certainly make it difficult)
1. The whole don't appear too interested/ don't call/ text until a certain time has lapsed. This is the dumbest rule ever! Someone has to show interest at some point. Why can't a person if they like someone just call them and say 'hey... Talking to you today made my day... Let's chat tomorrow!'
I really could go on and on. But it boils down to this. Wouldn't we build more meaningful relationships (and friendships for that matter), if we refused to play these games, and allowed ourselves to genuinely be who we are, and gave ourselves the freedom to express ourselves positively?
Most Helpful Guy
The only rule I'd stick to is: first take you time to learn to know each other, before going a step further. Apart from that I follow my heart.
If you wait a week to text him or her, the person may think contact was lost and may already be in for a next date. So I think that rule is indeed bullshit :o0
Most Helpful Girl
YES! Especially the rule you listed about not seeming too interested. If I like a guy, I like him. I want to spend time with him, I want do see him and hear about his life. Want to tell me about your day? I love that Ish. I hate when people make me feel weird or bad for liking that stuff.
I hate being labelled clingy because I care about a person I am seeing. I have my own life, there are things going on in it. I am very busy at times. But I believe in making time for those I care about. I value romantic relationships, I'm not someone who likes to just go on dates and stuff. I love relationships.
I really do agree that if we stopped with the silly dating rules that we would build more meaningful friendships and relationships. I think the reason these rules started was because people who are uncomfortable with relationships started these rules. Sure, not everyone is comfortable with contact, or having someone be interested in them. And that is okay too, but make a point to say that to the person. Don't be afraid to be you! If you like talking to a person and you tell them that and then they run off and never want to see you again, realize that person is not right for you and it's a good thing they left your life!
Sure, I have been unafraid to show how I feel at times. And yes, that has gotten me sad and lonely a lot of times. But I am hoping that someday (hopefully soon!) some guy will see that and say "I want to be with her, she seems like fun and very loving" And for him to just love the crap out of me.
So far that seems to be a hoop dream, but hopefully some day a guy will want to be with me. It's just the waiting that is hard. :)2