My friend and I were talking about relationships. We're on two very different ends - I'm 21 I've never had a serious relationship and she's 22 and she's married. She's been with her husband for seven years. I was telling her about my experiences with guys and she told me I needed to stop messing around and find someone. I told her my options were limited and the only guy who currently likes me is about to have a baby. Not exactly boyfriend material.
It was a long convo of her telling me I just need to catch a guy and me trying to explain not everyone finds someone so easily. I know she didn't mean harm by it but it's been bothering me because it's a sore spot for me. I just want to know why those in relationships assume that everyone can find love so easily.
Most Helpful Guy
Your friend is dumb.
She's kinda like Mitt Romney talking about how he is a self made millionaire because he went to all the best private schools, got a trust fund to live off while he built his business, and the family Rolodex of millionaire business contacts to draw upon.2
Most Helpful Girl
It's easy for everyone to find someone but it's hard to find the right person. The divorce rates have risen and marriage rates have went down. There are still people out there in their 40s who still haven't found the right person. Some people who have been in serious relationships have had breakups and divorces.
I don't think it's easy to find the right person. But people in relationships, who think it's easy, don't have have that problem so they're not worried about how hard or easy it is for others to find the right person. They currently have found the right person and they are so optimistic about their own relationship including other people's dating/relationships which make them think it's easy for everyone to find the right person.4