I am 22 years old, and I have never had a relationship or even kissed a girl :(
Pretty Sad, I know... Maybe something is wrong with me? But what?
I am attractive, I see girls checking me out, I dress well and stay clean... I do have some confidence, not all the time... but I am not cocky or anything...
I work full time, I have money, a home, a nice car...
I am a little shy, a bit of an introvert.. but I still ask girls out, go on dates... but tend to get rejected a lot, or even led on on used (The first couple of times)
Also I really hate partying, clubbing, drinking ( I don't mind getting a drink at a bar or something, but I don't like getting drunk... I'd much rather explore nature or do something new)
I tried online dating, I try talking to people in public...
I just don't understand what is wrong with me?
I feel like I have to be this perfect chiseled guy, with a super charming personality, a really good job where you are the best at what you do, and have awesome hobbies...
I know I'm not perfect, but I thought at least one girl in this world would like me... I just need a chance for them to get to know me... I am "sweet" and "caring" even a girl called me "amazing" because she was having a horrible day and I made her feel so much better... but it didn't work out...
I really just don't understand... I am 22, I know I am not into partying... but at least I thought I might find a girl who isn't either... but for some reason those girls don't seem to like me back... and ironicly the party girls are always into me... Should I just force myself to club, drink and dance? I really hate it... and feel awkward...
What's wrong with me?
Most Helpful Girl
I think you're just fine.
You are happy with yourself, you know what you like, you have your independence, your self motivation and self supportive too. It could be you've not taken time to give yourself that chance to find that girl. For a 22 year old it sounds like you've come a long way and you should be proud to have those accomplishments you do.
I think, you shouldn't worry so much about finding a girlfriend, If you really want to get out there and find a girl who's interested in you, don't go to the clubs. That is not your scene, and others can tell when you're uncomfortable.
Take your time and develop friends with a few girls, friendship can grow into something more. Learn about what you want in a girl, and in a relationship, then get out there and try to find girls in your normal places. (those places that you're comfortable going to)
Chances are you'll meet a great girl one day, and when you do find her the time will be right.
Until then, you can try online dating to make friends, or ask your friends to spend time with their mutual friends. Always keep in mind to, that most importantly be happy with yourself. Even if you're not with someone right now, or you're having trouble finding that match, take it easy and don't put so much pressure on yourself. Life gives us things when its meant to. Have faith. :-]
Most Helpful Guy
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