My boyfriend ignores me a lot and I don't know why.
1. I'll tell a story ab my life or vent ab work and there has been multiple times he just ignores me to the point that I just stop telling the story. Then life just goes on, he doesn't say a word. And we're alone when I tell him.
2. When I am asking questions about like what you want to do this Saturday? He will ignore me and not respond by watching videos or Pokemon and multiple times in a row. I'll ask 3-4 times and just give up.
3. When I am upset he will tell me are you done talking, or just ignore me and never respond, or if we're on the phone he will just put himself on mute and set the phone down for 10 mins till I hang up.
I feel so offended by this, hurt and sometimes even humiliated. I feel devalued. I love him and I try so hard to make this relationship work but with behavior like this I have a hard time feeling like he is trying.
tonight he ignored me while I vented that it hurt my feelings that he has nothing planned for our two year anniversary he says he has no money but I told him I don't need anything fancy a 99cent card, a picnic, a dinner and movie at home. I'll even pay. I just want a memory of us on our second anniversary. Mind you he is 27 years old and works full time but bills are super tight. What do I do to get him to respect me more and care. I told him three days ago that I was out if he didn't shape up and he ignored me tonight so I left while he pretended to not hear me and went home. Help me...
Most Helpful Guy
A relationship requires 100% from both sides. This doesn't sound like a relationship. My advice is to date someone who will be there for you when you need to talk. If he's not there for you now then imagine when something tragic happens in your life.1
Most Helpful Girl
"What do I do to get him to respect me more and care."
You shouldn't have to get somebody to respect and care for you more. They just should naturally all on their own. Girl, listen, you are trying way too hard to make something work that not even he is concerned about. You can't force somebody do anything. Hell, you even said you'd be done with him in three days if he doesn't change. STILL nothing.
My thought is that he's trying to get you to leave him. I truly think he's already done with you, but doesn't have the decency to be honest with you about how he feels. Think about your dignity and self-respect. Do you want to be with somebody who doesn't care about anything you say, no matter the topic? You could be spending all this time moving on with your life, adjusting, and preparing yourself for a much better man. I'm sorry, but it's not him. he needs to go.2
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