My boyfriend and I were so happy and in love for about 7 months. And then my boyfriend went to a wedding and realized he was never going to get to that point with me and didn't want to stay with me forever. At first I was devastated. We tried to stay together for about a month and then ended up breaking up but still hanging out. That happened about a month ago. I am still hurting a lot because I'm having a hard time accepting that those feelings we had in the beginning aren't going to come back and that we will never be that happy and in love again.
We both feel the change but knowing it can't go back is hurting me a ton more than it's hurting him. I'm not as in love or blissful but I also don't want to lose him from my life. I want to try to make it work and to bring those feelings back but he's adamant that we can't do that. He says he still cares about me very very much but he knows he doesn't want to be with me forever.
We took the label off and because of the decreased pressure things felt good again, I thought we were falling in love again but he said it was just because the pressure was gone that he could feel comfortable acting that way again. How do I accept we can't fix it? What do I do?
Most Helpful Guy
I think what happened is doubt entered in and that broke the emotional connection. Remove the doubt and feelings my came back to some level. Initial feelings change and mellow which is normal. Doubts about getting married are normal and maybe you aren't a match. Also normal that once the pressure is off, he feels better... typical for guys... we don't like emotional strain and pressure.
But do you understand why he feels that way and have yo ulearned about yourself... what you need and what he needs that is different.
Was the relationship emotionally strained.
I'd get counseling both so you can talk through this stuff. its ok to end it, just end it in a good way so you are both better off. Its still going to hurt for a while.0
Most Helpful Girl
Erm... Well the only thing you can do is to move on. I know it hurts a lot, but these kinds of things can't be fixed. You can always keep in touch with him though, both of you can still hang out but it's the matter of if he wants you to remain in his life as a friend. If you really don't want to lose him, you don't have to. Just be careful, because he may not feel the same way about staying friends. I'm not an expert when it comes to relationships but I do know that with time, you won't feel so hurt anymore. Good luck ! :)0