I attract a lot of men who already have kids and maybe a second one in the mix. I feel terrible when I explain that I won't date someone with kids but it's drama I just don't want to deal with, especially because I'm young and don't have any on my own. How would you feel with a person who has children?
Most Helpful Guy
I feel bad for those that are single parents. I can never agree with having any kids of my own in the very first place and therefore this would just definitely never work no matter what.2
Most Helpful Girl
if i was in love with him, i'd date him; if i only kinda sorta liked him, then probably not.
also, the fact that the kids exist means that there is a mother who gave birth to them. unless she died (and even then), she'll be in your relationship forever; if she's alive, she's almost definitely still in the picture and will likely cause more drama than i'm willing to deal with.
i admire people who put their kids first~ my mom did, when she started dating my now-(step) dad, and one of my closest friends, who has a 7 year-old daughter, is doing the same now. but i am child-free by choice, and would prefer to remain that way.0