My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 2 years now and I am so in love with him it's crazy. Yesterday I found out he has been cheating on me for about a month. I read some messages from him and a girl and that is as far as it got but they were talking about sex and some other things like they were flirting and stuff. I'm really hurt but this isn't the first time he's cheated on me and I know he's cheated on girls in his past relationships. He told me he's been trying to change and that he loves me and wants to marry me one day. We've even talked about moving in with each other with in the next 6 months. I don't know what to do and need some advice.
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I think he really is manipulating you and taking advantage of you. If he has a past history of cheating on his previous partners it's pretty much a date and commit to a relationship At Your Own Risk with him.
If you want to stay and remain unhappy about what he will do that you have no control over, as if he really wants to cheat and isn't exactly loyal to you in the first place, then he absolutely WILL cheat.
Otherwise you don't have to lie to yourself any more and think that the relationship would actually get any better at all. Put your foot down and take a grip of yourself and tell him, that you've had it with his fucking lies and cheating and going behind your back and taking advantage of you and your feelings and taking you for granted, and that you've been more than generous by giving him a second chance but in the end he took that completely for granted and is a total disloyal and ungrateful piece of shit.
If you're afraid to tell him this in person, then do this when you split off without ever telling him at all, as it's better, just totally ditch him and then either text or send him an e-mail telling him it's over and it's time to go your separate ways. You've forgiven him before, and tried to make this work but he really doesn't care how you feel or think at all and had only pretended to care. Drop all contact with him permanently once you break it off with him. It won't be easy. It's entirely up to you. Stay and risk being unhappy and discovering eventually that he cheated on you again and again and again, or worse if he ever got you pregnant and then cheats on you and abandons you. Are you really going to want to risk those kinds of possibilities?1