Does distance, age, money etc really matter when you love someone?
What Guys Said 23
These things do matter in the end from my point of view, because despite the fact that the heart will generally want what the heart wants, this doesn't remove our instincts to seek out the best possible mates/lovers, however you want to phrase it and with that being said, the items you're listing can play a factor in that decision.
Distance will matter, because if you're going to be separated for a long period of time, this brings about stress and brings about disorder, and not everyone has the fortitude to wait for someone if they are going to be gone for an extended period of time. Just take soldiers going off to war. Many get divorced during these periods, because either the wife or husband isn't willing to wait months or sometimes years to be reunited with their spouse or gf/bf.
I don't believe age or the age gap plays an important role anymore, if it ever did. For the most part it has been my experience and is also my belief that age is just a number and shouldn't be considered when you love someone. Doesn't matter to me how old someone is if I love them and they love me. That's the important part; the love itself.
Unfortunately, I do believe money does play a factor too. It is not fair and it is a harsh reality, but individuals want to be with someone who's going to be successful in life and not just be lazy and make living a constant struggle. True there are going to be those unique cases where it doesn't matter, but I've seen for myself just how real this item is when it comes to a male or female choosing who they want to spend the rest of their life with and someone who can take you on vacations, buy you nice clothes and cars... et cetera is going to win out most of the time over someone without such resources.
For myself, I wish it was true that love is the only thing which should matter, but intellectually I know this is not actually the case and we shouldn't delude ourselves into believing otherwise. Distance, money, attraction physically; these all will play a part in how we choose who we'll share our life and bed with, even though our hearts may feel differently about someone else without these going against them.1
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I'd say distances is a major obstacle. You really have to be in someone's life for things to function. The others are more grey areas that are up to interpretation.3
Money and age do matter, but distance doesn't it never has and never will. I'm probably one of the few people who can truly say it does not bother me.1
Distance is te most hard thing to overcome.
And i would not date an 5 year old girl no.
But money... No, if you love someone. Nothing in the whole world matters more than them.1
At 15, you have no idea what love is, and if you think you do, you can be sure you are wrong.
At 19 or 20, most women think that age matters, but money does not.
Most women over 30 come to understand that age doesn't matter, but money does.
There are some women 19 or 20 who understand age doesn't matter, but money does, but they are in the minority.
In the long run, age isn't too important, but money is very important.1
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Distance does. If you live within a few hours drive so you can see each other every week or two it is fine for a while because eventually both of you would need to move anyways to live together, but you need to be within driving distance before then.
Age and money doesn't really matter if you actually love someone.0
distance and age yes, money no.
but that's just me personally, for others it might be different1
it costs money to travel if you're involved w/ someone from a distance1
Nah it doesn't.1
Distance is a factor1
Distance can the most I guess1
Distance, it depends on how far. If the distance on top of other circumstances make it tough to see each other then yes. But you're both far away and willing to make it work, all power to ya.
All of those things matter.0
Depends on the situation as well as guy and girl0
Only girls give a shit about that stuff.0
Distance matters the most1
Yes to all. Maybe not money at your age.0
What Girls Said 13
Yes it surely does.
Being far away means you can't actualize that love, so what does it mean anyway. I can pretend right now that there's some guy far away who loves me and it's going to be even better because there's no chance of me getting my heart broke. Plus if there was really that much love each partner would make effort for there not to be distance.
Age doesn't really matter except if people are from two generations in that case heartbreak from having to bury someone so much before yourself will be devastating.
Money does matter to extent. If both of you have no money and can't make ends meet, then love will soon turn into frustration and that isn't good for anyone.9
If you're 15 without a car and without money for public transportation you have no business loving another 15 year old who lives an hour away.
If you're 15, regardless of whether or not you have money or a means of transportation, you have no business loving someone who is 18+ regardless of where they live. They could be your neighbor. The age difference is weird. 19 and 16 is different (even though it's the same difference) it's a society thing.
Yes. They all matter.
Money isn't a huge one but needs to be considered.0
Yes, it does matter. As much as we like to say it doesn't... :( it does to some extent.1
Distance does. Age doesn't. Money doesn't.3
I think that distance probably matters the most.2
Distance matters it's hard1
No. But love isn't enough either. See, you need communication above everything else. But it's also about what you are giving and receiving in the relationship. Some people can't handle not being physically close, making distance hard. Or they might have trust issues. As for age, it's complicated because of the different stages of life the people involved might be in at the time. And money... well, money problems can be really stressful and money stability is actually really important.0
Distance can be challenging because when you don't see that other someone daily you can be distracted by those you can be infatuated with.
Age can be challenging too depending on the gap. It's not much of a problem when you adults.
Money don't matter to me, but he HAS to have SOME kind of bank.0
It doesn't really matter, but it depends on your preferences1
Yes, it all matters0
I hope not,
but this is how I feel about it:
Age: the biggest age difference I would feel comfortable with is 10 years until I found someone who was so so special and I clicked with them right away.
Distance: I have dreams, but if my love had a job that required traveling around I would go with them sometimes and stay home and work at my dreams.
money: I have dreams of doing good in life and making something of myself, so it's ok if I find someone who has nothing like I do but he has to want to be something and work together with me to make a good life with eachother!
this is how I feel!!!0
To some extent, I think it can contribute to your love for them (may sound bad, but I believe it to be true).0