My girlfriend and I were dating just fine then we started arguing. A lot. Over trivial stuff. She asked for a break. She said she doesn't know how long the break will be but she is unsure if she is happy with me. She says she won't talk to or do anything with other guys while we're on this break but I just texted her goodnight and said I love you to her and she read it but didn't respond. She acts like she cares about me in person but over text she is treating me like just a guy-friend. I've read her conversations with guys on her phone before. The way she is talking to me now is very similar to that. Perhaps she has found a new guy and doesn't want him finding out that we are still together, we are just on break. So she can't text me things like I love you, or goodnight or something. What do you girls think is going on? Also, does a "break" mean a break up?
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Well, here's my opinion, which may upset some people. I don't really like the idea of "Breaks" in any type of relationship. I mean, she's either your girlfriend, or she's not. I get that one can have some time to think to think to themselves and have a little chill out time, but a break? No, because after the break, the problem is still going to be there once she comes back. The only thing that "Breaks" do is prolong negative anticipations, trust issues, and wandering thoughts as if that person has already moved on. If she's a on "Break", does that mean she gets to see other guys? I mean, it's a "Break", right? So, in my opinion, there is no "Break", "lunch hour", "recess", etc in a relationship. It's ongoing even with ups and downs. What she needs to do is TALK out these problems WITH YOU that are causing you guys are argue.
I noticed you said you guys have dated a month and already she claims to love you. With her being young, and likely a typical confused and drama high school girl, she may not really know what she's saying. But I see you're trying to reach out to her with a lovely text, and not even that got her to come around. She's taking you for granted, and possibly likes the fact that you may be squirming or trying to desperately chase and get her back. Don't give her no entertainment or satisfaction in that becuase I really wonder how she would act if you just disappeared and remained silent; making her realize she was stupid to let you slip by. It's not fair for her to have you sit around and halt your life until she's ready to come back.
Honestly, date somebody around your level. I mean seriously. You deserve a mature partner, and one that actually wants to talk to you when something is wrong.0