He works at my daughter's school. No wedding ring. I've been eyeing him for a long time. How do I meet this guy? He's not a teacher. I see him briefly when I'm dropping her off @ school. I'm always in my truck and he's directing traffic/providing security.
I want to meet him badly but am terrified that I'll look like an ass. She'll be going to this same school for the next 7 years so would have to see him on occasion. Help! :)
Most Helpful Guy
Park a bit away and walk your daughter the rest of the way. When he has a moment, approach him and tell him you have noticed him many times and want to meet him. A bit forward? Yes. A little risky? Only a very little. I would be open to someone approaching me like that, and if she was as good looking as you, and with a great personality that you seem to have, I would jump at the chance to get to know you better. The worst that could happen is if he is "taken", but if it were me I would still be flattered and would not embarrass you at all about me already being taken. (I would tel you, but in a very nice way and hope we could still be friends.)2
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Most Helpful Girl
Soooo I don't really know what yr default personality is like, in terms of making random flirty comments and so on. Because I don't, I'm pretty much just grasping here --- but, I'll try.
I always like to... make fun of people a little bit, if I can. Not in an actual sardonic mocking way, of course -- just in a good-natured way.
Does he have to wear one of those reflective safety-vest thingys?
If so, you could totally use that as a conversation piece ahah... "I never thought I'd live to see the day when someone makes THAT thing look good", or something like that.
This is better than just saying something like "I wanted to come over here and introduce myself", or whatever, because it's not AS direct.
See, if you are TOO direct about this sort of thing, there are 3 things that could potentially go wrong:
You may just come across awkward af. I mean, you're ALREADY nervous -- I can only imagine what the pressure of a *direct* approach would do to that.
If he's the more traditional type of guy who wants to *feel* like he's making the first move, then, you wouldn't want to take that particular card out of his hands. If you do, he might just... not know what to do.
Unfortunately for the rest of us... A LOT of women who DO make those kinds of super-direct approaches also happen to be, well, very manipulative in general. At his age, this dude certainly has SOME kind of history with women -- and if he's had the bad luck to come across a master manipulatrix who DID make all the moves first, he's going to be forever shy about women who are too direct.
If you make a comment like the one I put up there ^^ instead, then you're minimizing these problems.
He can still FEEL like he's making the first "real move" when he responds to you (even though we all know the truth ahah)... and it's not the sort of thing that he'll find off-putting if he's that type.
Also -- you reallyreallyREALLY shouldn't linger too long with the whole staring thing.
That's probably not as weird as it would be the other way around (if some guy spent weeks or months side-eyeing us without actually saying anything)... but, it's still gna get weird. I'm sure the guy is not totally oblivious.
In other words, you should actually DO something, before things have a chance to go "stale". (And because you need to get fucked into another dimension.)
G'luck babes <3 <32
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