So i went out with this girl, and i myself am not too sure if her intentions were just hanging out as friends or going out as a date. Anyway, we went on a date and i assume that everything is great since we started at around 3 and finished at about 9 at night. But throughout the date there were several things that i felt was a red flag:
1. when she said 'you shouldve told x (mutual friend) to come'.
2. as i was sitting accross her, she told me to sit next to her.
3. i asked her if she would like to do this again and she said 'i don't mind'. Hmm sounded like she isn't very enthusiastic
4. We texted for a bit, and she said 'confused if i should take you seriously or not'
So, i need your expertise since i am oblivious towards these.
Any insights toward this situation would be great.
Most Helpful Girl
First off, were these dates actually labelled as 'dates'? Or is this just what you've called them? I doubt this girl would agree to go on an actual date with you if she was planning to friend zone you.
She may struggle with nerves or feel awkward for reasons. If she wasn't interested at all I don't see why she'd still be contacting you. I would probably advise you to ask her straight up how she feels about where things are going, does she only see you as a friend or feels like getting to know you better could turn into something good?
It's probably the only way you're gonna find out, and will save you a lot of time and effort in the long run if she cannot be bothered to carry things on.0
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Most Helpful Guy
Be clear and set dates.. not "hang outs".
Stop texting. Save the conversation for "dates". If you dump your load in texts and phone calls, you will have nothing to talk about in person.
Next time, have the "date", wait a few days and call her up and ask when you can see her again. Not "Would you like to do this again", especially during a date (I really hope you did not ask her that while still on the first one).0
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