My older sister ruined our childhood really bad. My older sister is mentally ill and she made us crazy while growing up, she dragged everyone down to her depression and she made all of us feel like shit and she wanted to ruin our lives, When i was 12 i got sick really bad and had to go through a rough treatment for about 4,5 years, i sat at home a lot and she literally drove me crazy back then, cursing at me and yelling at me and bullying me, she never had any friends, never worked and just made our lives a hell, she dragged everyone to her level and never wanted us to make friends and enjoy life, me and my sis were too young and we didn't had parents so she took advantage of us. She is truly an evil person, she is 29, has no friends, never had a man, sits at home all day, doesn't do anything, no work in ten years, no school, just her and the computer. I am 24 and she took my ability to make friends, she took away my youth, she took away my youth, she took away my peace of mind and for that i will never forgive her, i have no friends, never had a boyfriend, never had anything pretty much, i messed up my schooling at 18 following her advice, and i lost my peace of my mind back then, i didn't had the strength to pick myself up and i was very sad and i knew i was be alone. How can i ever pick my life up again/?
Most Helpful Guy
So she is evil because someone treated her evil and was scared. She wasn't strong enough to get out of it and remains in fear. She passed the fear onto you. You are realizing what has been going on and are fighting to get out of it. Many others have gotten out of this.
Think of it this way... in terms of "cups". For those years, someone was pouring poisonous stuff into your cup... fear, control, depressing you (because she was scared, shameful and angry). The solution to get out... draining yourself of that stuff, avoid negative junk as much as you can, and fill up with the good stuff that you really want.
Draining the bad stuff - talk about it to God, or here, or friends and let it go. ... and hand it over to God/Jesus, that is what he does and what he did for man/woman kind. Forgive... yourself and your sister and mom. you said you will never forgive... if you do that, then you will hang onto the anger. You don't have to forget what she did or allow her to still do it, but forgive in that you understand she is sick and that wasn't really "her" doinug it, but her sickness. It is the hardest thing to do... but the best thing for you.
Avoid negative - put up boundaries where you can so you don't take on more. if you have to move out, then work a plan to do that. just putting up protective boundaries emotionally will help.
good stuff - find sources that fill you up and make you feel good with Joy, love. Go to museums and see art, try new things socially, go hiking, take trips, love yourself, respect yourself, the list is endless! find the good and beauty in peopleand enviornment, it is there...
The question remains... where is your father?
Most Helpful Girl
What is every post you made or comment just so you can talk bad about tour family. Ok I get it maybe they did treat you bad but you don't have to go out of your eay just to whine about it and tell people. Plus calling yoir mom the b word in another post you made is just pathetic. So what if she didn't you wrong. My mom let my brother rape and molest me for years and my dad would beat me but you don't see me saying bad things about them0