I am 24 and i messed my life up. I seriouy regret my actions and i want to change. I never had a boyfriend, never had close friends etc. I feel like i can't handle life, i want to achieve something in my life, i want love a family one day etc. I grew up with a depressed mom and i became heartless after a few situations in my life. What can i do? I live at home still, but i need a change, am i too late to live? Dont be optimistic be realistic please.
Most Helpful Guy
Get out of your home first. Being away from your mother will give you more time to reflect on yourself and how you are the way you are and the why. People can change but only if they really want to. I was in an emotionally abusive family (physically abusive before that) and it messed me up, I moved out and spent several years just reflecting on myself and who I was and why I was the way I was. Slowly over time I began to change stopped being shy stopped being as angry stopped being afraid of others judgment. When I was young I couldn't handle being touched it was awkward and any interaction didn't seem genuine to me now I am what you call a hugger, I fear no judgment (in fact I can share way to much information with anybody) I have no problem expressing emotions but all of this happened gradually and with deliberate training and reflection. So realisticly yes you can change, no it won't be fast, yes you will still have your baggage yes it will be manageable given time, no its not to late. But only if you want it only if you dedicate yourself to the task. Get out of your comfort zone and you will be forced to learn coping mechanism to deal with it which will help and then the more you do it the more they become second nature and then finally after enough time it will become nature, it will be apart of you. But again this all takes deliberate practice and it may take the rest of your life before (if ever) you have fully recovered (I have come along ways but I still have my issues like lack of ambition which was crushed at a young age, but I'm getting better and hopefully will recover at least to some degree). It will hurt and it will be uncomfortable and you won't want to do it and you will have to any way. That is the reality both positive and negative but that's what life is in general.0
Most Helpful Girl
Your life doesn't sound messed up. We all regret our actions we made in our lives. at least you acknowledge them you want to give it a change. Then make it happen. You only 24. Go out to social gatherings, church, gym like any place you can meet and interact with new people. You will make new friends and eventually meet a guy. Having a depressed mom is not so great but it's not the worst situation. Plenty people are from divorced parents, parents suicide, abusive like so many horrible stories out there.
I'm 25 I still live at home. Plenty of my friends in my age still live with their parents. Just have confidence and belief in yourself and move on. Live your life. Learn to appreciate yourself and people/things around you. You are only 24 there's so much great things and fun waiting for you0