I'm not one who likes to come off as clingy so in my case I won't message a guy if he doesn't message me first and I tend to keep the conversation very short through text. If I go and hang with him I will leave after 20ish minutes so I don't take up his time. I've cut back on seeing him a lot and I won't go to see him after a certain time of the day. I know guys don't like clingy so I sort of tend to suffer in silence (btw he never asked for space, I didn't want it to get to that point anyways) and I'll think about him a lot but I use a lot of self control. What can I do to take my mind off him so I don't feel so tense?
Most Helpful Guy
When someone does this stuff to me I tend to start wondering if they actually like me or not. If a girl never texts me first, I'll try to go as long as I can without texting her to see if she will actually try to say something to me. I think you are going way overboard on not being clingy. You are on a different planet.
If I was meeting up with someone I'd pissed if they left after 20 minutes. You got to realize this guy is taking time out to come spend with you, you are actually wasting someone's time if you're going to only hang out and bounce after 20 minutes.0
Most Helpful Girl
I've been struggling with something similar too. I don't want to be clingy, but I recently read an article on Cosmo or something that said it's also not good to be too distant because they'll assume we've lost interest in them. I guess it has to be somewhere in between, which isn't easy. In order to keep your mind of him, try to remember to have balance in your life. Focus on school, hobbies, friends, and just sometimes him - at least while you're still trying to pursue him. I've been doing that recently, and I've found it makes life less stressful. lol0