All of my friends are in serious relationships right now. I'm just working and going to school. I don't have friends at school and the girls I work with already have their established friends outside of work. I've been feeling very lonely lately but I've been trying to ignore it by throwing myself into just work and school. My friends suggested I get a boyfriend so I'm not so lonely but I don't know how it feel about using someone like that. What do you think?
Most Helpful Guy
Nope. Been there, done that. You should date someone because you want to, not just so you can date for the sake of dating. It doesn't make you happier and in fact you can still feel lonely. Plus you hurt the other person.
I was also used as a rebound recently with someone I genuinely liked and it's a very shitty feeling. You feel used and as if everything they said was a lie to manipulate you. Generally they leave if their ex comes back or if they found someone "better".
It can also put you in their shoes.0
Most Helpful Girl
Same thing here. I've honestly thought about it, but I know if I had a boyfriend that would be the only close relationship I would have. I'm at an age where I should be hanging out with a lot of people, having fun experiences, and the seriousness of a relationship really isn't something I want right now. Like you said, it feels unfair to use someone to distract me from loneliness when they're probably looking for a life partner. Right now, I'm just trying to distract myself with making as many new friends as possible and getting into some hobbies. It's super lonely, but I think I'll wait until I feel more independent and complete by myself to get a boyfriend. It totally sucks, but try finding things you're 100% happy to do by yourself. Join a book club. Volunteer. Distract yourself so much you forget what you're distracting yourself from. And hopefully a guy will come along after that. Hang in there!0