I'm 20 and still living with my parents and my parents won't allow me to meet up with guys that I'm interested in on Tinder so as a result I sit at home when I should be meeting up and socializing with guys that I'm interested. I even video chat with them before hand and I tell my parents about it and they still won't let me meet up with them. A lot of my friends my age met their boyfriends on Tinder and other online dating sites because their parents let them meet up with them but my parents just won't allow me to meet up with guys that I meet online so they are ruining my chances of being in a relationship with these guys that I meet online My parents are also ruining my chances of me having fun and doing what ever I want because they won't let me meet up with guys on Tinder. The only way my parents would allow me to meet up with a guy is if I meet them through friends, work or anywhere in person. I also really want to meet up with guys that I meet online because I want to see what their personality is like in real life and want to have conversations and go out to lunch and dinner with them to get to know them better but my parents would not allow me. How can I convince my parents that I want to meet up with guys that I met on an online dating website?
Most Helpful Guy
Er... you're twenty years old. You don't need permission.
Do what teenagers have been doing since dating was a thing. Lie. Tell them you're going to meet a friend for coffee. Meet a dude instead. Tell them that you met the dude while you were out getting coffee.
If you're morally opposed to lying, then don't lie. Have a girlfriend go with you, not to be part of your date, but to hang around for a few in the background while you meet the guy and make sure he's not a serial killer. Then tell your parents you met him there.2
Most Helpful Girl
You're right. Your parents are acting unfairly. I met my boyfriend through Tinder and he's the love of my life, going strong 9 months already. If I was never allowed to meet guys from there in person, I would never have met him which is actually really a sad idea. Your parents need to understand you're an adult and that online dating is a thing. It's a great means of meeting new guys especially if your everyday life doesn't give you many chances to meet guys. You'll have to tell your parents that you are miserable and lonely and wish to find guys to date. Maybe also remind them of how many people have found love that way.1