I've been told that I'm very cute and in good shape. I'm also very friendly and outgoing. I'm open-minded and straightforward. I'm also kinda perverted. But I'm in a wheelchair.
I'm pretty much independent and most of the people are amazed how I menage to do things on my own and to stay positive with all the stuff that's been happening to me. A lot of people want to be friends with me. I also notice guys when guys stare at me with "that look", I could tell that they like me but I feel like they are afraid of my disability and that they don't want to go down that road. I know this from long time ago so I had no other choice then to approach them myself. But the only thing I got most of the times is pity. They would feel bad if they would reject me (they don't want to hurt me) so they go along with dating or having a relationship with me, and then after awhile they leave with "I'm not ready for this" statement. So I stopped approaching. I just wanted to see if there are guys who will do it first. But still no luck... no one has approached me or flirted with me in more then a year now.
My disability is permanent. So is it all because of it? Do guys really have such a hard time with it even though I'm like 95% independent? Is it such a huge red flag?
Most Helpful Guy
First of all I am sorry for you. Secondly NEVER GIVE UP. Thirdly, I would not date a disabled girl WHY? Not because of her infortune !!! but because I don't know her. Why should I hurt some girl who is already hurted? If I knew her from my social circle or in job or she made the first move and I loved her personality and her look too I would date her and even marry her cuz that is what person I am I never betray my loved ones, friends, family, girlfriend. Even if my current girlfriend would be disabled from accident (finger crossed) or anything else I wouldn't dump her I NEVER BETRAY. So you get the idea, many guys need to be sure that like your personality too in order to date you. I think you should meet more guys and hopefully you will meet a real guy like me not only jerks who want sex and leave. All the best0
Most Helpful Girl
like I doubt I d date a disabled dude
but that s just me0