My boyfriend doesn't handle emotions well. Everything was okay Monday and Tuesday. Weds-Fri I didn't hear from him. Early Friday, like 1am, I texted him to let him know what time I'd be there (our weekend visit). He texted me back that he 'doesn't think I should and its a bad weekend with a lot going on'. I was a little shocked and hurt at first because he's never done that but I just said okay. I called his brother the next day to see what was going on and he said that work was picking up and everyone was stressed. Texted him on Sunday to let him know I was thinking about him, no response. His brother calls me at 4am and says that he got drunk and said he was thinking about ending our relationship because he felt he wasn't "good enough" for me but he "loves me too much to let me go". I just put it down to stress from work and the drinking. I know he has his dark moments and thinks about breaking up but it's never been verbalized that I knew about. Now he usually withdraws without saying anything (Weds-Fri) and I cling a little bit (Fri/Sun) until I directly asks him if everything is okay (I did this yesterday, Monday.) I said I was confused and asked if he needed space from me to just let me know and I'd respect that. 8hrs later he replies that "Honestly, I need some space right now" so I said I respected that and went to sleep.
We've been through this before, always when things start to get really busy at work, but we bounce back after a few days or a week of no contact. His brother doesn't think he'll actually leaves me, neither do I. He's a very straight forward person and when he's done, he's done and he'll let you know too. So I'm taking it as a good sign that he said he only needed space for 'right now' (meaning he'll come back later?) and didn't mention anything about a breakup (he doesn't know his brother told me, I've been acting as normal as possible). But what do you guys think? Should I be worried? Or just give him the space he needs right now?
-I'm a few weeks shy of 20, he just turned 27.
-He doesn't handle emotions well but when he thinks we have a serious problem he'll break down and say I'm "his world/his everything", "I love you more than anything", "I don't want to lose you or ever neglect your feelings".
-I feel like I would be handling this better if his brother hadn't told me that it was a thought.
-His mother thinks he's feeling sorry for himself and I should let him work things out
So his normal reason for withdrawal, stress and work, and now he's back to normal :)