Ok so I've been on 3 dates with this guy and I really like him. Thought I blew it when I called him whilst drunk saying I was concerned he didn't want anything serious but he said it was all good.
I asked him if he was still free for Friday as he mentioned going out then on our last date! He said ye and his mate wanted a double date so he'd confirm with him and get back to me.
It's Wednesday and I haven't got a time yet! He did this on our 1st date, he was trying to organise the night before, I said I was cancelling then he got his ass into gear and gave me a time.
He's sooo laid back and I'm really not... that and he hasn't started his job yet so his concept of time isn't great...
Thing is I've gotta get a train in so I need a time at least. What do I do?
Just go with the flow and if he doesn't text assume it's off? Or message the night before?
I feel like I've been pushing him a bit to get details which I don't wanna keep doing...
Wasn't sure if maybe I backed off if I'd get more of an idea of his level of interest!
Most Helpful Guy
It appears that the two of you are at different points in your life and you’re actually different personalities and such aren’t always compatible with one another overall. From my perspective I know in the past people have said opposite attracts, but in this day and age, especially with women’s liberation and female empowerment being what it is, more and more girls like yourself and being more bold and assertive in what they desire, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.
However, this also means that while you’re rushing furlong into what you desire, the guys around you might not always be at that point in their maturity or life as further along as you might be. Again, nothing wrong with that, we all develop at different rates, but it causes it to be difficult to develop a serious or meaningful relationship when two passing ships in the night are not heading in the same direction.
With that being said, I feel that while you’re at this point in your life, this guy is only going to continue to frustrate you and push you to negative emotions like anger along with that frustration the longer you try to be with him and get him to ‘grow’ up as fast as you are or rather as further along as you are. True, most of the time, a person should fallow their heart, but one should always do what’s going to make you the happiest and that’s not always the same as what your heart desires. Sometimes what you want is not what you need. That’s my bottom line.
Most Helpful Girl
Stay silent. Wait until he says something. If Friday comes and he still hasn't said anything about a time, just drop him. Clearly you don't match if that happens, and I feel like if you somehow got into a relationship with him, this trait would drive you up the damn wall constantly. And that clearly would not be good. Like you're not even with this guy yet and he's annoying you already.
So don't chase him. He said he'd get back to you. If he does, great. If he doesn't, he just proved to you that he's not worth it. So sit back this time and wait it out.0