Hello all - I am writing to ask something that i have been wondering for a long time - I am a Christian born and raised - however I find it hard to find girls at my church that i am interested in (since to be fair i don't even attend a lot) so I mostly meet girls from my uni and it's safe to say that none of them are religious - I don't hide the fact that I am a christian to them but It made me wonder if non religious girls are normally turned off by religious guys?
Most Helpful Girl
Hmm. I am an agnostic. Religiousness is not necessarily a turn off in itself, but it increases the chance for other turn offs, such as: opinions on very important world issues, especially social ones, even insecurities about being accepted and liked within each other's social circles, and last but not least.. lifestyle adjustments! I, for one, would not agree to go to church regularily or often, and especially not every week, with anyone. Because it is not who I am. But the person might feel alienated from me if I don't value that, since for them it is a big part of who they are. And last but not least... if the people are looking to get serious.. how are they gonna agree on the way they raise their children? This might also be problematic.1
Most Helpful Guy
Food for thought: How compatible will you be with "non religious" girls? As a Christian, would you be OK marrying a girl who has very different views on morality, especially sexual morality than you do?
Not being a girl, I can't really answer your question from their perspective. That said, I have noticed that many will be turned off by a religious guy, especially one who isn't lukewarm about his faith and who is overt about his beliefs, especially if they are feminists.
You say that you don't attend church a lot. Perhaps you should find another church that does speak to you. That said, be forewarned. A lot of so called "Christian" girls aren't all that different from their secular counterparts, especially when it comes to moral issues.
There are Christian women at the university. In the USA most unis have religious clubs and organizations (not sure what it's like outside the USA). I have a cousin in Hungary. She's a lawyer and a practicing Catholic. Her husband is also a lawyer and a Catholic. So there are believers in the uni. Many don't advertise it because they fear unfavorable treatment from the faculty and fellow students if they were to be open about their beliefs.0