I mean no offense with this question and obviously not all women but many women like to say when a man is confident it's very attractive.
The problem I have with this statement is the pressure on men is a lot and honestly if I was a man it would be very hard to be confident. Women have the control when it comes to dating. Especially when society places the burden on the man where he has to go up to her and impress her and be interesting and funny at the time time confident, it feels like too much.
Not only that but in my experience women tend to be less forgiving when men mess up.
I'm not saying confidence is not a good thing, but at the same time I feel if a guy isn't confident I can't be too hard on him either. I mean when it comes to dating I don't feel i have to worry much about being confident or interesting, like my transition is smoother, while the mans is a lot more of a bumpy road.
Most Helpful Guy
You are only confident if you get positive results back consistently. Meaning a man who gets lots of good feedback from women will be confident because he gets positive results. A man who gets lots of rejection will not be confident.
Basically women have the game stacked to identify who are the men, that other women want. Logically a man who gets lots of girls will be confident as fuck while a guy who gets rejected will be scared to approach, not bother or stutter when he speaks/act nervous.
Thus, this sets up a perfect system for the fuckboy/players to get more pussy while the guys who genuinely just want 1 girl can't get her because she is turned off by his lack of confidence not realizing that said male is probably like that from being rejected a lot.
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Most Helpful Girl
Attraction isn't charity. People are attracted to what they are attracted to and attraction is ALWAYS disciminative against some people. If you are attracted to men it's discriminating against women. If you're attracted to shy people it's discriminating against outgoing people. If you're attracted to blondes it's discriminating against brunettes and so on. Attraction will never be fair or affirmative action. So to have a problem with the statement that a lot of women are attracted to confident men is ridiciulous. It won't change a thing.2