Thanks for your post! :) I think he is husband material, and you're right he has not been in a relationship before. I just thought that since he is obviously turned on by me, that he wouldn't be able to keep his hands off of me, or at least try to kiss me after a month? I can't always initiate everything :(
@AskerDon't initiate anything your unsure of. Just let things happen naturally. Hands must be kept to oneself. A hug and cuddling are fine. But take things too far, and it can be too much for the both of you to the point the relationship may not last. Take your time.
I'm not sure how it's going to be... seeing as he has no idea what to do?
Take the lead. Let him take the lead once he feels secure enough. The most important thing is to not make a big thing out of it. It must be incredibly stressful for him to be a virgin about to have his first time at 33. Lots of pressure on his shoulders. Take the pressure away. The only goal should be to have fun. Just play together. The more you make it about his first time, the harder it will be. You could start by giving him a massage, taking away most of his clothes in the process, then you just keep going from there. Let him give you a massage, etc...Let it go there naturally. If you put pressure on him, he'll tense up and might retreat. The important thing is that he gets his first experience. It's much easier after that. He will quickly gain assurance.
Thank you so much, what a thorough answer!
My pleasure dear.
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I just hate being the one to make the first move... I like the traditional old fashioned ways- and I certainly don't want to throw myself at him..
It sounds like it's worth the effort :)
I wonder what the reason is... hmmmmmmm
i was a virgin till i was 30... and the only reason for me was: i just couldn´t find a girl that liked me back the way i like her. i was very happy, when i met a girl that didn´t care about me being a virgin. i mean you have to realize, he has NO experience. and at this age this is a huge problem to him, cause for everybody else probably including you, sexual stuff is "normal" but he doesn´t know stuff and because of that disparty, he has very little confidence in that area, which is why you should encourage him to do it or even take it in your hands to make the first steps. at least talk about it.
I've sexted him, and even moved in nice and close face to face and nothing... this is taking forever and i don't wanna throw myself at him
Well throwing yourself at him won't help but maybe if try persuading him then he might but if not then at least you tried something
He could be gay? how can i tell?
guess straight out ask him or ask some of his friends
Is that gonna be a problem?
Yeah, if it is real small. It won't feel as good.