So, I asked a girl out 5 weeks ago who I have been somewhat friends with for 4 years now, and I got an odd response. We both are in band, robotics, and we both are in advanced classes. I was just wandering three things:
1: what does this mean and is it sarcatic, lying, or truthful? (just best guess)
2: if you were her, would you be alright with me asking again, or some other follow up question?
3: should I tell her that I can wait or that we can be friends until we can date?
What she said:
"I am sorry, (insert my name), but my parents won't let me date, but maybe we can still be friends."
-Thank you to all who respond,
Most Helpful Girl
1. It could either be lying or truthful. When I was 15 I wasn't allowed to date at all. I was actually in the same situation as you, I had a guy friend who I had known for 4 or 5 years at the time who wanted to date me but I couldn't because my parents. We're dating now tho, 4 years later lol.
The way to tell if its a lie is straight up ask her. Or, if you're really good friends like I was with my boyfriend, go over to her house and observe her family dynamic
2. I would be alright with you asking again, or a follow up question. Just don't KEEP asking it, ask it once again and drop it for a few weeks or so.
3. Say you can be friends until you can date, but don't promise to wait for her. Say you'll be open to a relationship when she's ready but don't commit yourself to waiting.
Sorry my answer is so long but I feel because I was in this exact situation like 4 years ago or so, and I was in the girls shoes. It's tough when your family doesn't want you to date. But if it helps my boyfriend and I had a great relationship after waiting all those years.0
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