that has to stink
you mean the interest goes away?
Have you actually tried chatting to her? I'm guessing not when your so shy. But I felt like the guy above was just messing me around. All he could do was stare at me, follow me around and occasionally stand next to me pretending to look busy. Not even a simple hello. He works in a supermarket and talks to customers everyday. Yes they can lose interest if you act on it too late or never act on it. Time stands still for no one.
how do you get the courage to say something.
If you think of another situation that includes meeting and befriending new people. Like starting a new workplace. You'll want to make friends, so that your not on your own all the time and have other people to talk to. Don't treat this situation that much different, take one step at a time and try some general chit chat with her. Stop over thinking it like you're doing just now. You don't have to ask her out on the first day you talk to her. If you keep over thinking it, it will just make you even more reluctant to attempt a conversation with her.
sounds like it'd be though to do.
in that I'm shy
Text it to her. Write it on a note and leave it for her.If you're shy, you don't need to ask her directly face to face. That can be hard.So, you can either do this and ask her out. Or tell me more reasons (excuses, just in my opinion) as to why you can't.
Im going to have to disagree with person who says write a note. Some girls in my apt complex asked me to ride to the bar with them randomly one night. I had to pick my friend up and turned them down. Couple weeks later, I left a note on their apt door offering to cook dinner. They sent the land lord to my apt. Some bullshit about stalking. I only ever left a single note and the police said it was a bullshit accusation too. Just saying dont leave a fucking note. For the love of god. That is all.
I get what you mean, I've just never dated before and am really nervous.
@actualhero - Level 1 user. Likelihood of being fake acct or troll - 95%.Asker, try just sitting by her. See if she tries to get your attention. Even just give her a smile.
just get her to smile? how should I go about finding girl.
No. I dont know how I came across, but I was trying to make the point that you have to kind of detect when you are just trying to extend the conversation. Sometimes Ill do like that because im not sure. Ill just think of something to say just so we can still be talking. What im really doing is delaying. Your advice is good too.
Finding a woman? There are apps. Explain up front that you're shy.
you think apps are best? I really do want to try dating I think it'd be fun.
oh wait. it was confusing because I replied to your comment about the note and I also left a primary answer on this thread.Yea. The thing about the note. I dont know what to tell you. Everyone I asked even my land lord thought that those girls were just bizarre. The only thing we could think of is that they didn't remember asking me to the bar. Regardless, Im never going to leave a note again. If you disagree with my little story, then go talk to the girls about treating guys a little better. Im just telling him not to leave notes and get reported for stalking when he's just trying to be a boy. Sorry about confusion
Asker - I have 2 friends that have met their boyfriends on Tinder. One is new the other are going on a year (this month).So, you can find someone serious on an app.
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how long is acceptable to ask her though.
As soon as they show they are confortable with you speaking with them, as in any human relation.
I get what you mean, but what is socially appropriate?
no sex that early.
Not what i mean, anything more and you;d come off as slow, you'd then never have a chance of having sex with her ever.
It's just a coffee, it's at a Starbucks or similar, in public thus and there's a table between you. Nothing that might be dubious thus.
I guess so, I just would feel weird asking for coffee so soon.
Because some imagine weird things.
really isn't that creepy?
The longer you leave it, the greater the risk of friendzoning.
when you have no dating experience it is hard to not wait b
go for it, whats the worst that can happen?
I don't know I'm just shy.
sometimes im shy too but you miss out. lifes too short. live on the edge a little
I really want to meet someone it is just hard for me. rejection scares me.
rejection scares everyone. it's in our dna. there's nothing wrong with you. but you need to pick up your balls and go for it!!Seriously every "no" is closer to a "yes"
you think a girl could like me
interesting, lots of people said short time frames.
If u only intended for being a friend with him/her, U could ask him/her out as soon as knowing each other. If ur intention is for a relationship, take time to flirt him/her through message, phone and face to face if possible. Don't take it hard, it's only my opnion anyway. :)