Would you date a model?

Question

Guys would you date a model? Would you be judgmental of the modelling profession and assume that she dates a lot? I have been talking to this guy, we have many things in common, our conversations are fun, but not flirtatious. Very platonic indeed. He hasn't made a move yet.. could it be because of that?

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+1 y

I 'm educated as well, I'm currently a grad student, I haven't told him that I model after about 2 weeks talking to him, I didn't want him to judge me because of that. I complimented him couple of times and gave him my number... I think that it's pretty obvious that I want to get to know him better. We text and snap back and forth until 3 am sometimes, I wouldn't do that if I wasn't interested. He is very different which I like but it confuses me on his intentions... also he works in retail but

Answer 1

redeyemindtricks

Guru

I was an editorial model for a few years, about twenty years ago. I worked for an international agency, and I lived in 5 different countries over a span of about 4-5 years.
As a rule, the women who did THAT SPECIFIC kind of modeling *did* date (and fuck) a greater than average variety of men... but, these were specifically women who were perfectly fine moving halfway around the *world* on a couple weeks' notice, to countries where they didn't know the culture or the language.
In other words, international editorial agencies attract BIG RISK-TAKERS. And so, unsurprisingly, that personality trait tended to spill over into personal lives, too.

The kind of modeling I did, also, was the kind that's pretty much *over* by mid-20's at the latest. So, there was this very real sense of "carpe diem", because the girls all knew they would have **totally different lives** in a few years—in terms of careers, location, travel, EVERYTHING.
That tended to add to the whole "living for the moment" vibe, too. Basically, it was like a big international "party phase"—with "real life" following up afterward. And true to form, a LOT of my girlfriends from the agency partied and fucked around a lot while they were still modeling... and then slipped effortlessly (and happily!) into more committed, more stable relationships once they entered whatever their follow-up career happened to be.

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On the other hand, you mentioned that you're in grad school right now, while also modeling, and that yr tearsheets are just headshots and other such things.
In other words, YOUR agency is probably full of TOTALLY NORMAL PEOPLE, who are just like other totally normal people.

In fact, if you're talking about print/catalog work, I'd be willing to bet that yr agency is populated mostly with women who live pretty healthy, low-risk lifestyles, so that they can maximize their looks and their careers. Right?

In any case... Just TALK to this boy about this sort of thing.
Boys (and *most* girls) have honestly NO IDEA what goes on in the world of modeling. He might think you're in commercial work, like a VS angel. He might think there's a relentless "casting couch", especially if he's watched one too many pornos. Who knows.
If I were you, I'd just ask him point-blank—What does HE think yr modeling life is like?
I bet the answers will be VERY entertaining... hilarious, even. He probably has no clue how mundane and un-exciting most of yr assignments are.

Good luck <3

Answer 2

Bleh-___-

Guru

Be ready to have a lot of assumptions made about you (she's a slut, she's narcissistic, she's a snob, she wouldn't go for a guy like me). A lot of people mistake modelling with being a lifestyle/personality than an actual job. Since you're already talking to him it shouldn't be difficult to break that stereotype. Him not being flirtatious could mean anything.

Asker

+1 y
I know and it's very sad... that's why I didn't tell him at first and now I'm not sure what to do
Bleh-___-

+1 y
Modelling is really not a big deal. If he likes your personality he's not going to just suddenly drop you due to your job. You're overthinking it lol

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Asker

I know and it's very sad... that's why I didn't tell him at first and now I'm not sure what to do

Answer 4

Bleh-___-

Modelling is really not a big deal. If he likes your personality he's not going to just suddenly drop you due to your job. You're overthinking it lol

Answer 5

Máiiréad | 949 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

He probably thinks you have a bunch of dudes already talking to you and that he has no chance.

Asker

+1 y
I really hope not because that's very far from the truth... how can I bring that up when we don't even talk or flirt like that

Answer 6

Asker

I really hope not because that's very far from the truth... how can I bring that up when we don't even talk or flirt like that

Answer 7

Anonymous

If you're interested in him, make a move instead. Why wait for him to do the move?

Asker

+1 y
I did, I complimented him and gave him some hints but he doesn't seem to catch on?
Opinion Owner

+1 y
I'm sorry, giving some hints doesn't equal making a move. You're way too passive.

You like him obviously so ask him out on a date, buy him a coffee or take a walk in the park. See if you hit it off. Then the ball is in his court. If he doesn't reciprocate walk away. Simple as that.

He might think he doesn't stand a chance with a girl like you so he will probably never make the first move.

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Asker

I did, I complimented him and gave him some hints but he doesn't seem to catch on?

Answer 9

Opinion Owner

I'm sorry, giving some hints doesn't equal making a move. You're way too passive.

You like him obviously so ask him out on a date, buy him a coffee or take a walk in the park. See if you hit it off. Then the ball is in his court. If he doesn't reciprocate walk away. Simple as that.

He might think he doesn't stand a chance with a girl like you so he will probably never make the first move.

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Bandit74 | 3.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

I would probably assume she's into the club scene and seeps around. Also I am not a fan of knowing that all those photographers got to pay money to take HD pictures of her in various states of nudity while she makes sexually suggestive poses. I would also potentially feel jealous that she looks sexier when posing for the photographers.

Despite that, I would still consider dating one but, litterally the only thing that is appealing to me about dating a model is that even without the photoshop, styled hair, and professionally done makeup they are still better looking than the average girl. Like if an average looking girl posed for those same pictures and lived that same lifestyle I wouldn't even consider dating her. The only thing that makes it tempting to date a model is if she is ridiculously attractive.

Asker

+1 y
I 'm educated as well, I'm currently a grad student, I haven't told him that I model after about 2 weeks talking to him, I didn't want him to judge me because of that. I complimented him couple of times and gave him my number... I think that it's pretty obvious that I want to get to know him better. We text and snap back and forth until 3 am sometimes, I wouldn't do that if I wasn't interested. He is very different which I like but it confuses me on his intentions... also he works in retail but I don't really care about that, I just want to get to know him.
Bandit74

+1 y
Really, it doesn't matter what any of us think about dating a model. The only one whose opinion of models matters is his and since none of us know him or how he perceives models we can't possibly tell you how he will react.
Bandit74

+1 y
One thing that may affect how he judges you is what type of pictures you have posed for. Like if they involve nudity or sexual poses/expressions.
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Asker

+1 y
Sorry I didn't mean to write this hear. Thanks for your opinion. I actually don't do any of that.. I do mostly portraits and headshots.. no nudity no sexy outfits whatsoever. I told him but he didn't even ask, he doesn't seem to be interested about me modeling.
Bandit74

+1 y
Then he probably doesn't care.
Asker

+1 y
He doesn't care about me or just the modelling part?
Bandit74

+1 y
The modeling part.

Answer 11

Asker

I 'm educated as well, I'm currently a grad student, I haven't told him that I model after about 2 weeks talking to him, I didn't want him to judge me because of that. I complimented him couple of times and gave him my number... I think that it's pretty obvious that I want to get to know him better. We text and snap back and forth until 3 am sometimes, I wouldn't do that if I wasn't interested. He is very different which I like but it confuses me on his intentions... also he works in retail but I don't really care about that, I just want to get to know him.

Answer 12

Bandit74

Really, it doesn't matter what any of us think about dating a model. The only one whose opinion of models matters is his and since none of us know him or how he perceives models we can't possibly tell you how he will react.

Answer 13

Bandit74

One thing that may affect how he judges you is what type of pictures you have posed for. Like if they involve nudity or sexual poses/expressions.

Answer 14

Asker

Sorry I didn't mean to write this hear. Thanks for your opinion. I actually don't do any of that.. I do mostly portraits and headshots.. no nudity no sexy outfits whatsoever. I told him but he didn't even ask, he doesn't seem to be interested about me modeling.

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Bandit74

Then he probably doesn't care.

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Asker

He doesn't care about me or just the modelling part?

Answer 17

Bandit74

The modeling part.

Answer 18

think_logic85 | 56 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 7

No, I personally would not date a model. Why you ask? It's smile for me, in this line of job, you've to constantly put your body out for display for others.

It's the nature of the business, if you want to he successful, you've to break the limits, which normally means go all the way out (naked).

Which of course starts a whole new circle of problem with either people think that she's a slut or she would be willing to do anything for the money, which results in either people disgracing you or loving you for not who you are but for what you can give them.

It's a vicious circle.
I as a normal person would not want such hassle, I would be better off without it, but if you don't have any problem with it, more power to you.

Answer 19

GraveTruth

Xper 6

I wouldn't go near a model and not because she dates a lot but because she if fill of herself and it's such a short lived career that destroys a persons' personality.

It's possible the guy doesn't want to live up to your expectations as models are going to have a lot.

Asker

+1 y
That's not always true.. it is very discriminatory. Not all models are shallow...
GraveTruth

+1 y
What kind of Model are we talking about here. Are you in a SEARS catalog or are you doing what every other model is doing (webcam model)?
Asker

+1 y
I do portraits headshots and editorials... nothing sexy, but he doesn't know that
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GraveTruth

+1 y
Well, it would be impossible to know what's in his head but people do not like to hang with models too often.

Hey, you got a good looking melon if you are in headshots. You should have confidence. Just tell the guy you want to go on a date. :)
redeyemindtricks

+1 y
@gravetruth Dude did you get yr heart broken by some model? Dem generalizations tho
GraveTruth

+1 y
@redeyemindtricks I don't have a great deal of respect for models.

Answer 20

Asker

That's not always true.. it is very discriminatory. Not all models are shallow...

Answer 21

GraveTruth

What kind of Model are we talking about here. Are you in a SEARS catalog or are you doing what every other model is doing (webcam model)?

Answer 22

Asker

I do portraits headshots and editorials... nothing sexy, but he doesn't know that

Answer 23

GraveTruth

Well, it would be impossible to know what's in his head but people do not like to hang with models too often.

Hey, you got a good looking melon if you are in headshots. You should have confidence. Just tell the guy you want to go on a date. :)

Answer 24

redeyemindtricks

@gravetruth Dude did you get yr heart broken by some model? Dem generalizations tho

Answer 25

GraveTruth

@redeyemindtricks I don't have a great deal of respect for models.

Answer 26

JustCallMeLeon

Guru

I would date anyone, as long as she s loyal. Profession is not a barrier for me. Model, sales woman, executive. Dont care as long as we r getting along fine. Of course i would feel a bit worried and be more careful if the girl was very attractive and/or overly friendly/social and i think of everybody here.

Answer 27

martyfellow | 2.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

He will no doubt assume that you have gentleman companion with big $$ that he couldn't possibly compete with, and that screwing them is part of your work... so be careful and explain to him that you're not the international playgirl type of model!!!

Answer 28

Sholax

Xper 5

Odds of a model falling for me are 1/100000000000000. I don't see anything wrong with dating one but i'd assume their standards are much higher than I can ever be.

Asker

+1 y
Would you still assume that if you guys text back and forth until 2 or 3 am?
Sholax

+1 y
If that's the case, I would likely be suspicious of attraction. I like to play it safe though, so I wouldn't act on it until I was at least 90% certain something could happen between us. But I know i'm much more cautious than most men.

Answer 29

Asker

Would you still assume that if you guys text back and forth until 2 or 3 am?

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Sholax

If that's the case, I would likely be suspicious of attraction. I like to play it safe though, so I wouldn't act on it until I was at least 90% certain something could happen between us. But I know i'm much more cautious than most men.

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Phoenix98 | 4.6K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

It could be that he assume you have guys all over you or your already with someone. That's the curse of attractive people no one makes a move on them because they assume your already taken.

And if a mode was actually interested in me and I was interested in her then yeah I'd date her and give things a shot.

Answer 32

Anonymous

Some dudes are friends with models so when they go out to the bar or club other girls will be interested in them. You know how women compete with each other. Check and mate.

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doctorwhofan23 | 371 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

If we clicked yes, but as a shy guy I would probably be too scared to show too much interest because I would assume she did not like me.

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mike5150 | 865 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

No I am more of a private person and that would be very stressful. So for selfish reasons no.

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TryingToWriteBooks

Xper 5

I assume it would be difficult. She'd probably travel a lot.

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Yumix | 1.8K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

ehm, sure why not? And why would I think that she dates a lot just because she's a model?

Answer 37

Lorenz965 | 61 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

I Would... the problem is.. that i doubt she would date Me.

Answer 38

Anonymous

probably not. only if she had an education and advanced skill set/earning potential. Otherwise, I wouldn't stick around her for long.

Opinion Owner

+1 y
I can pick up a pretty girl without an education pretty easily at the supermarket or theatre if I wanted. But, they'd be making minimum wage. Who wants to date a girl without an education?
Asker

+1 y
I'm a grad student at a top university and he knows that... I told I'm I model after about 2 or 3 weeks because I wanted him to get to know me without making assumptions..
Opinion Owner

+1 y
you are clearly smarter than me. but, you still got a loan, especially if you are going to a top uni.
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Asker

+1 y
I have a scholarship lol so no loan so far. Thanks for your opinion!

Answer 39

Opinion Owner

I can pick up a pretty girl without an education pretty easily at the supermarket or theatre if I wanted. But, they'd be making minimum wage. Who wants to date a girl without an education?

Answer 40

Asker

I'm a grad student at a top university and he knows that... I told I'm I model after about 2 or 3 weeks because I wanted him to get to know me without making assumptions..

Answer 41

Opinion Owner

you are clearly smarter than me. but, you still got a loan, especially if you are going to a top uni.

Answer 42

Asker

I have a scholarship lol so no loan so far. Thanks for your opinion!

Answer 43

Anonymous

If i wanted to lie i would say no just because you speaking with that guy and not me :/ lol JK, that surely isn't a deal-breaker for me. I'd love to!

Answer 44

ASEXY

Guru

I'm a model but I wouldn't date a model because I'm asexual/aromantic.

Asker

+1 y
what?

Answer 45

Asker

what?

Answer 46

Anonymous

i would and no i won`t judge and by the way i don`t get jealous easy

Answer 47

lualesca

Xper 5

I don't think a model would date me to be honest.

Asker

+1 y
Why not? Models aren't any different from other girls...
lualesca

+1 y
Let's say my life, isn't where it should be at 25 years old, and i feel i haven't created the type of lifestyle that women would find attractive. To be honest i am currently in a dire situation, where i wouldn't be able to date a single lady for an extended period of time, to make her fall in love with me.

Answer 48

Asker

Why not? Models aren't any different from other girls...

Answer 49

lualesca

Let's say my life, isn't where it should be at 25 years old, and i feel i haven't created the type of lifestyle that women would find attractive. To be honest i am currently in a dire situation, where i wouldn't be able to date a single lady for an extended period of time, to make her fall in love with me.

Answer 50

dudegrt09

Yoda

Yes I would... that would be great!!

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beefcake2000

Xper 6

I would date a model a no problem

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nolookingbackx | 163 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

Yes.

Answer 53

zombiebabe

Master

nope i wouldn't

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TheDictator

Xper 3

I would date our but nt marry her.

Asker

+1 y
Why not?

Answer 55

Asker

Why not?

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rgb008 | 4.8K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Yes.

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cth96190 | 1.9K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

I would and I have.

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bedroomdweller

Xper 6

lol sure I would

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Decentguy

Master

no i won't

Answer 60

Luci160999

Xper 5

Nope

Asker

+1 y
why?
Luci160999

+1 y
In your case is different because you are a girl and I know most guys will date you but in my case, the males models that I know are either gay or they date other models. Also I never date a guy prettier than I am.

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Luci160999

In your case is different because you are a girl and I know most guys will date you but in my case, the males models that I know are either gay or they date other models. Also I never date a guy prettier than I am.

Answer 62

Anonymous

No, I wouldn't

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Other_Tommy_Wiseau | 1.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Hell yeah

Would you date a model?

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