So I met this guy a few weeks ago. I was at a wedding and we were at the same table. We ended up talking all night and he ended up asking me out. And I said yes.
So after going on the first date I found out that he's a really great guy! Super nice, a gentleman, funny, easy to talk to and treats me like gold! He took me out to a nice place too, which I appreciated. I really enjoyed his company! But nearing the end of the night I was imagining myself kissing him, or having any kind of passionate moment with him and I just didn't feel excited! I just totally didn't get excited at the possibility. I wasn't grossed out at the thought, just meh.
Now to clarify a few things. First, He's not ugly at all. He's good looking! I'm sure lots of girls would be super into him. Second, I am not in any way unattracted to him because he's a nice guy lol. I do not like bad boys at all, and am way more attracted to nice guys by far. So that's not the reason.
But it the thing is, I know what it feels like to have huge electrifying chemistry with someone. My last LDR boyfriend of 2 years gave me no doubts on my physical attraction to him.
So am I being shallow? I honestly don't get why I'm not into him that way and it feels like I could be missing a blessing. Technically he's what I'm looking for. But he just doesn't make me feel attracted.
Am I being shallow here?
Most Helpful Guy
Hi, many women pick a guy that they know will provide a very good living for them. They can even convince themselves very happy with that person and they can have a nice life. However, they will always miss that electrifying sex when they are with someone that just sets them on fire and lights them up. If you were to go with him you might be OK but she might be tempted to have someone side as well which usually ends up being a very hard thing to deal with. Everyone is different so there is no way you can know until you just go through it and experience it. He sounds like a really good guy please try not to break his heart I've had mine broken way way too many times and it is destroying me1
Most Helpful Girl
Ignore anyone who tells you "how you should feel," in relation to someone else. That's a red flag right there. The only way you should feel about this, is exactly how you're feeling right now. As you've outlined, it has nothing to do with wanting a bad boy or having something against good guys, but attraction can't be faked or forced. You can't make yourself like someone FOR WHATEVER REASON you're not into them. I would say though, if you truly feel there is nothing else there, don't waste his time. Let that good guy find someone who is into him instead of trying to force yourself to be.1
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