Ex's do cause a problem.
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Thank you! So they exist... that's good to know 😊
I've met lawyers and very educated highly mannered people in this life too. if youve never really been out there dont judge.generally you can be right but most of the people you describe that are on the higher end of organized crime are people with considerable character. look at the gov. and lobbists, biggest criminials but dont fit this stereo type view. to you point you're right. but lets not make the women innocent for wanting them
these men are in jail to please some female... trust me 80 percent of them want acceptance and love thats why they live that life because they had such a disadvantage in life being wihtout a father etc. they still need acceptance and love.
No offense, but if you call an innocent child disgusting, you should not be with a woman with children, so thanks for taking yourself out of that pool.
@Grumps , thanks for being a kind gentlemen and not grouping all single mothers and being kind to people in general.
@LoveHolyGod I wouldn't want to be with a woman with children anyway. I've seen so many things go wrong and the kids are always disrespectful as fuck.
Children are a blessing and should be guided correctly by a loving, caring adult.
@LoveHolyGod I bet God said the same thing when he created Satan.
satan wasn't a child of god. they are servants and messengers for God.
Children are from God
If you do choose to form a relationship with him, you need to accept that you are not going to be his top priority.
I hope you upfront and honest about your intentions. Being a single parent is very hard and moms don't need the added stress of a man who "just wants to have fun" or just have sex, especially when it takes time and energy away from their child/children.
@LoveHolyGod Oh yes, i forgot to add that i am upfront with them, i usually at the third date, and before we have sex, i tell her that i wish to have a short relationship with her, because in the long term will not work due to the age gap usually 15+ years, and ideally i want to marry someone who is around my age,THAT being said, i give everything during that short relationship, i give all my efforts to feel and make her feel special, i give my time unconditionally, i will date her throughout the whole year or more, i will celebrate her achievements and be with her when she isn't doing so well, i will not save anything for myself, for me being in this short relationships is refreshing and sweet, because the whole relationship is the honeymoon phase, so we really have a great time together. So it's a good memorie for both of us.Those women who got offended, get over it, i force no one to do anything.
Just so you know, sex outside of marriage even with protection can lead to getting someone pregnant sometimes, so then you would be the single parent. Abstinence before marriage is the only way to avoid this fully. I would never be with someone who said they just want to have fun, life is more serious than this. I am not judging you just telling you what I have learned and my life lessons have been through. I hope it all works out the best for you, God bless.
shall v b frds
m forwarding my hand towards true frdship
what is the worst experience you have had with girls like that?
She only wanted me to provide and care about her young, she talked about her kid and her kid and what happen and how her ex did this and happy that helped her. I just gave up after 5 months. We haven't even gotten to know each other for real and her only focus is on her darn kid. Which she said I was good with. And asked how come I was single through out these years. I'm like well it's nice to know your past now let's move on to us. Nope her kid this and her kid that. Oh geez I gotta go. Haha!
damn. that's tough. thank you for sharing.
True but each experience is there own. Nothing wrong turning on mommy mode. Lol but you do have a man who is there as well.
Yes. That is true however there have been cases (though rare) that, that doesn't happen (though in those cases it was a female cub) and they. Keep it alive because it's young and would be a fresh bloodline with stronger young eventually. (This is also irrelevant)
So glad we aren't animals...
Question: What does a single dad raising a kid and a guy that was just fired have in common?Answer: Their budget for the next 3 months.
I don't get it? Did he lose his job?
@Shizzypoops No, he spent his money on the kid.BUT I LOST MY JOB! AHAHAHHAAHAHAHAAAA!!!
@JustFired he bought the kid? Well dam he's a nice guy! < 3
How come? I don't have a kid or anything, I'm just curious haha
@lawstudent931 Too many compromises and drama. Number one, I'm not playing second best to a kid who isn't mine. I won't tolerate ex's of any persuasion. Not nearly enough alone time.Dates cancelled at the last second because she couldn't find a sitter. And this may piss you off, you opened that door, I view single mothers as used and damaged. Fuck buddies or FWB's possibly. Date or get serious, oh hell no ! I've tried it and while I did get laid a lot.I just resented their kids being around 99 % of the time. And I've has nasty fights with the Baby Daddy's. One I hurt very badly. Didn't fell bad at all about it. by the way, I'm going to law school too.
While I agree with most of the hardships and annoyances you described, I have to disagree with seeing them as "used and damaged." Sometimes terrible things happen and it's not their fault. My own dad was an excellent husband to my mom until they found out she was pregnant with a girl and not a the boy he had wanted, and he ditched her in the ultrasound room in the middle of winter lol. I'm glad my stepdad accepted her. I don't think I'd personally ever date a single dad etc., but I wouldn't see them in a derogatory fashion -shit happens. I'm glad you're attending law school :) Are you particularly interested in a specific area?
@lawstudent931 Criminal defense and civil rights. You?
@lawstudent931 It just never happened because I married late in life. Although, that'sabout to change. PM me and I'll tell you more.
@lawstudent931 Trust me most men do view them as used and damaged. We disagree. To me that's settling for less than a single man, w/o kids should. I know this is harsh, butthey are my views. So be it.
That's pretty cold, isn't it? Feeling nothing towards a child since it doesn't share your DNA?
@snowangle No, it's normal.
@snowangle For men, it's only natural.
I see. So I'm your opinion, is that why men tend to not go into childcare jobs? Because they naturally care nothing about children who they did not help create?
@snowangle Pretty much. Some men might be able to care for a kid who isn't their's. However, the vast majority won't. It's a personal preference like women who like tall guys. Blondes, whatever. So it's ok for women to have preferences and not men?
@Marinepilot Preferences are fine. Maybe it's just hard for me to wrap my head around since I love all kids. Saying you don't have the ability to feel anything towards children is just unbelievable to me. It's like saying you don't like puppies.
@snowangle Well we don't hate kids or feel nothing for them. If we see that a kid is in danger or needs help, we'll help them. But there's no emotional attachment. Then resentment is only if we're seeing a single mom who's had another mans child.
@snowangle I do have feeling. Toward my OWN kids.
Yeah, that's pretty cold. Guess it's a good thing I'm a girl; I would hate having that mindset.
@snowangle It's how most men think. To me that mindset is normal.