I will try to make this short as i can seeing as this is a prelude to my Take/Rant coming up very soon, i want to hear the Other (female) side of the story first.
When i was in middle school, i liked a few (lot of) girls, but none of em ever gave me the time of day or friend zoned me, basically, no one cared, not her, not her girl friends, hell, not even my friends.
Then in high school i blew up, got taller, buffed up and my acne cleared up, then all of a sudden i start hearing of all these girls "liking" me and then people start trying to get me to ask them out, thing is, I Didn't Like THEM. then i start hearing things like "man up" and crap like that, but the thing is, i didn't like them. Then those girls turned around and start hating me. No one went to the girls i liked n told them to "woman up".
Now, the point, i would have thought that years later, this strange phenomenon would have changed and women (not those girls) would have realized the world doesn't revolve around them, but i still seem to be in this battle where a girl likes me and I turn her down because i know its not gonna work then they get mad, and just hate me. This is in a world where I have approached girls i was genuinely interested in and been shot down, I didn't cry about it, i just moved on.
So my question is, girls why do you start bitching if a guy doesn't like you? its not automatic, why can't you look at it from YOUR perspective when you turn down Bobby Joe because you have eyes on Johnny Jock? Now Johnny Jock turns you down and you get mad and forget you recently just made Bobby Joe feel the same way.
In some cases when the guy actually does "ask" the girl out, then there is a break up, then she goes "he just wanted me for sex" FORGETTING the fact that HE didn't want/like YOU in the First place. YOU forced it. Why do you girls do this? Its childish n petty.
(lol, the names depicted in this question are fictional, and i apologize, i guess it wasn't short as I thought hehe😇😎)
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Your first part of the question sounds like these girls didn't like you for who you are, they only liked you when you were "hot" or could give them popularity points with their friends, even dump guys heartlessly or reject them for shallow reasons, I completely understand how horrible this feels, but understand that guys do the same thing, but they're considered "the man" for it, men are defined for how many hearts they can score, compassion and respect is considered weakness, women are defined for how many guys choose them and stay, being constantly used and trashed by shallow guys paired with desperation to feel worthy causes women to want to feel in control, if a guy likes them more than they like him they feel in control, they mistake this insecurity-rooted vengeful unkindness for justice or empowerment, they see the place of a man as being apathetic while having someone scrambling to please you because that's the only kind of man they know and have been told to trust, they think to be more powerful than pain they have to be a "man", when a man rejects them they feel worthless, meanwhile men have no idea what true love is because they're only taught to emphasize their sexual and provider prowess not how to be a good romantic partner or sometimes even a good person. Redefining relationships and gender stereotypes is what needs to happen here, not pointing fingers at broken people. This is not to perpetuate the idea that men need to blamed for everything and that women are oppressed and need to be relieved of sacrifices or responsibility, but just to say that men seem not to like it when they get a taste of what they-or if not them, other men-tend to dish out. People have to learn to be by themselves for a while and evaluate why they do what they do and why they're so scared of rejection and what the impact of their actions yet. But in high school, introspection may not be this thorough, as immaturity is another reason why girls can be shallow and then not handle rejection well.2
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