there's this man who works in a shop near my house, i go in the shop regularly he always stares at me and one time he waited outside the shop for me and asked for my number, i dont even know why but i gave my number and one thing i know for sure is that he's older than 27, we started talking from then, he asked me to meet him one day and took me into town, he would make me walk behind him so people wouldn't know we are together, he was holding my hand one time and some police officers walked past and he immediately let go of my hand i found that a bit rude but didn't say anything, he took me round all the shops and made me buy things i refused obviously because i dont need no man to buy me things but he would get angry so i bought one thing, he then took me to his house and i was sitting on him and he was touching my boobs i felt so uncomfortable but i didn't know what to do, and we was just kissing but it was clear he wanted to do other things and asked me if i wanted to sleep in his bed but i said no, after that i went home and he ony texts me like once a day, he hardly even speaks to me making me think he just wanted to use me, im full of so much anger and i want to get him arrested, like i know he won't go jail but im sure it would be on his records and scar him for life, i need my revenge he has made me depressed he has emotionally changed me, ill do anything i have to make him rot, so can someone please help me.
Most Helpful Guy
It doesn't sound like he did anything to warrant getting arrested.
You shouldn't be so vindictive. You want to "scar him for life" for making you feel depressed. That is not healthy thinking.
Just chalk it up as a learning experience. He won't be the last guy that will try to use you. Figure out how to navigate that.
Most Helpful Girl
You can't blame him for something you allowed an initiated:
1. Nobody told you to get his number.
2. Nobody told you to go where he goes.
3. Nobody told you to go to his house... ALONE.
4. Nobody told you to be on top of him, letting him touch you sexually, or start kissing.
5. He was grooming you for sex and to rape you. This is why you should not be dating or messing around with a 27-year-old. And yes, he can still get arrested. Because he should not be with a minor sexually or dating you.
You got used because you ALLOWED IT. No matter how much you was stricken with fear and feel immobilized, you could have just not go to his home. And just leave him alone, block him, etc. Because at the end of the day, you can get him arrested. But now your parents will be involved and you're going to be in real serious trouble. And this can or may go to trial if convicted. He at least let you go. He did not force you to have sex. If you were that uncomfortable, you should have opened your mouth. He didn't do anything to you that you didn't already want him to do. At least what your body wanted to do.
Please stop. Because its girls like you who doesn't own up to fault is why guys are no longer trusting women for anything. Silence only makes it worse. Also, he is no longer really speaking to you because it's clear what your thinking. And he doesn't want to get arrested. However as long as he did not have sex with you, he's less likely to be pressed with serious charges.2
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