Thanks. I found this to be of great value.
@RasmusAiken You are most welcome, I'm glad it was of use to you. :-)
Ah Interesting, thanks.
And is it possible to become emotionally available again for such people?
I think most such people have developed that detached persona as a personality and I would not expect them to change.
Can you tell more about this @OlderAndWiser
I am myself emotionally unavailable but I do not have superficial relationships with friends and family. In dating however, I tend to fall in love with emotionally unavailable men cause it is a way to avoid emotional intimacy or a real Relationship on my part. So commitment issues and self esteem issues are part of emotional unavailability.Emotional unavailability can take many forms and it might take years for a person to figure out that they have that problem.How you can indemnify it
Couldn't have said it better.
I believe a person who is emotionally available is hard to date a person who is emotionally unavailable. Because cannot connect. So are these kind of relationships hard to continue?
@Cerate yes it's very hard for these people to continue. Eventually one is more interested than the other and the person who is less interested and only wants something casual might distance themselves from the one who wants something more serious.
thank you, like I said above, I am older and wiser, and I thought I knew someone, but they checked out emotionally, or really were never emotionally invested at all...
but the boyfriend i got back together with, is probably emotionally unavailable too. he says all the things to make me think he loves me but his long-term actions don't prove it. he probably doesn't love me and was just lonely. funny how that works
That's so sad, tobh I think It has nothing to do with emotional unavailability, there's just not enough love.
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We had issues? Becuse of that?But how is it possible to know whether I am or not, if you also don't look like emotionally unavailable but you are in real life?Uh good If I am not, relieved.
Remember awhile back when i decided to book it, and you were like "i never had anyone do this where they just up and left" (paraphrased)On here i am emotionally available but in real life i am not... it just comes from growing up in the place i did... whats the worst that can be done on here? angry words with capital letters?I am emotionally unavailable in real life unless i am in a relationship, that's how it has always been. I genuinely develop very strong bonds with people in a relationship but when those go away i shut down, it's kinda sad.
Shhhhhhh, people shiuldn't know our daarrrkkk secrets O_OSo fault is in Hawaii or fault is in your stars hahaSeriousy is it so bad to be emotionally unavailable?
Plus at that time you also didn't want to end it as I remember
Lol mmmk bury it in comments then :)Fault is in a lot of things lolIt's pretty bad, you aren't really alive, like you hardly ever feel ups and downs, it's mainly just neutral. I think i adopted that more-so after learning to fight, i would take a more neutral approach to situations, i would keep emotionally distant because i was always sizing up the situation.I didn't you are right, because i actually liked you, i liked talking to you, hell, we connected over castles. Not many people do that.
That's sad but sizing up situation and to be able to stay emotionally stable is still a good thing.Yeap and you were the first person with whom I talked about sharks 😂I am so glad that we managed to continue it :) Lol I am talking about it as it happened long ago :DI should go and sleep now or I will fall asleep on tablet, have a good day
Go have dreams, we'll talk later.Well i am like super old so you are catching on:Phttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4NQezVfj0K4Yeah, it's gotten easier with time. But it's like i am 60 years old lol
Ohh no chance I wouldn't think you were more than 55, you keep looking young, good!I remember that video haha
Lol i would be 55 and still get carded for alcohol >_> damn!
And if you were that type I don't think you'd worry. Those people love being manipulative.
That's really interesting! A guy I've just broken up with has dead eyes, they're meant to be the window to the soul but his were blank, it was like he wasn't all their and sometimes I could see aggression as opposed to any love...
Ohh good then I have pretty inviting bidy language
*bodyThat tablet is crazy
Oh I will definitely try it, thanks :D
Everyone has emotions at some point
oh okay, so those people hide their emotions and never show them?
I don't know I wondered maybe I was unavailable that's why I aksed tht question
and how that thought came to your mind?what caused it?
Because sometimes I have that look this guy has in gif below, I have many friends, but I rarely talk about my deep feelings with them, just simple ones and always when I was close to get in a relationship, I would step back, cause I was afraid that my privacy would be somehow limited and I am like a butterfly, fly everywhere but don't stay on one flower for a long time. Hehe good comparison, I've been like that but as long as I realize that it might be bad for me and people I care for, I try to change.
well im not sure but from what im getting it, is that. maybe you dont trust people easily, maybe in the past somethings happened that made you trust on people, not very easily, instead the opposite. and you maybe you are afraid to open up to anyone, because you think they won't understand you and what you will say when you open up to them, maybe its possible, that you live in a bubble, that no one can see, not even you, but in that bubble you feel very comfortable, and in order to get into that bubble for anyone, they have to earn your trust, but you dont trust people easily, or its possible that you have trust issues
Is it glazed look?images5.fanpop.com/.../...wen-29420950-500-275.gif
ya. .. thats it... and as for you.. id say you're temporarily emotionally unavailable
Why? O_o what makes you think so
just one of those mad fleeting feelings you get... like after you've eaten too much candy floss
es tu une française ou c juste que tu as un nom français?
en anglais s'il vous plait?In English, please
just wondering if you were french..
He has never been in a relationship
See if it affects them