I've been in celibacy 6 months I don't freely have sex with a guy. Not looking either for a guy.
@cthomas12Celibacy is when you're not participating and have no need for romance, sex, marriage, kids or dating/courting. What your saying is that you have been abstinent for six months. The point is what do you want to do right now? Do you feel pressured to find a guy because of your age?
Yes almost 30 ... nice career and family oriented don't understand the problem. I guess it's not the right timing and I have not found the right man. Celibacy is no sex until the person is in a committed relationship. I have been holding back for the right man. It would be nice to have compaionship, but even that's hard because most guys are seeking friends with benefits. I'm not trying to rush into anything serious. Yes it bothers me that I have never had a serious relationship with a man.
@cthomas12You have to do right from the beginning. It's not about wrong timing. Your picking bad guys because of your preferences. Looks, instead of judgment of character. The time is ANY time. It's what you're not doing and lacking. You're not learning anything from your mistakes and your focus is all on the wrong things. Focus on bettering yourself personally, emotionally, mentally and psychologically. Everything is about choices in this life. And we all have to make them.
No sweet heart this, has nothing to do with looks. These men play games... lie too.
@cthomas12Then stop worrying about them. They have nothing to do with you. You have to worry about yourself. That is what I had to do. Because at the end of the day, you have to respect you. Perhaps your not meant to be in relationships. Let along this modern way of dating. That's why I stayed out of it. So until you find somebody who is of likemindedness with you, you have to accept it and move on. You can't force them to commitment, it should be an automatic if they see that your worth it.
Compaionship would be nice and no not forcing anyone either.
@cthomas12But the point is, is companionship is what you NEED in your life at all? Because what we want won't all the time be what you need, and what you need may not be what you want.
btbc there's nothing wrong with friends. Done with this conversation.
@cthomas12If that is what you meant by companionship, then you need to express that in an update, before you confuse others what you meant. Companionship is also implied to romance.
I do... have yet too meet one whose serious. it's crazy..
be strong, don't worry about your age. Remember, int his day and age you don't need to get married to be happy. I know plenty of women who live AMAZING lives and are EXTREMELY happy without long term bf's or marriage. Take it at your own pace, love may hit you when you least expect it. But remember to take care of yourself.
This explains why I have been single a while. No wonder why some women are gay!
This is sad
Well to be honest that goes both ways. Also I should note that as a male I have found it easier to find hook ups versus relationships on those apps. So in all reality why would I put in all that effort looking for a relationship when plenty of girls are willing to offer me the ultimate reward at next to no cost.It is sad though, I agree
@10dsw Exactly what I mean. :(
Well honestly... why should I put effort into relationships? They suck. I'm in one right now and I feel like I have to do all the work for no real reward
@10dsw it does seem like men do not want to put any effort to commit
@10dsw I'm not arguing I just think the way people look at relationships now is pathetic and people don't commit anymore and dating sites and apps create the illusion there is always another option so people don't work on nurturing relationships and this whole thing about not dating but just "being friends" and hooking up or meeting strangers for sex and then you're done, everyone is emotionally detaching from the physical act of love and no one knows how to be in love or be loyal to one person anymore in a deep, meaningful way. I hate what dating and relationships have become.
This is why I am done
@ikissedtheskyonce Because in the long run we have everything to lose. Whether it's a simple break up or our possessions in the case of marriage. Why take the risk when being single is better than everI do feel sympathetic towards women though. This culture has completely ruined stable monogamy
@10dsw so you just go around fucking women?@ ikissedthesky Girl I am done. Exactly fuck all these women these men... Exactly what I am talking about. Invest In more sex toys and call it a day.
I agree with you 110%. Both genders are guilty of constantly trading up. Trust me, I'm a stable, hardworking highly educated male. I want nothing more than to commit to a great girl who supports me in all my endeavors and a girl I can support back. But after being rejected many times in my life and realizing how much effort I have to put in actually finding relationships... well to me it just isn't worth it anymore. Those "feelings of togetherness" have sort of perished in my brain lol.
This has, to be the saddest shit I heard but oh well. Too each their own. Stay in celibacy and stick to my guns.
Even now.. the relationships have been in/am currently in just don't cut it. Everything is apparently always my fault lol so... I just don't care anymore
What do you mean?
What do I mean how can you sleep with somebody you dont love? Me I will hold back aslong as I can. Just hold back one day for a guy
It's very sad I agree. Don't blame the men though. We are simply a product of our garbage social media driven society.
bunch of b. s.
@cthomas12Any guy can. Guys can sleep with anything and everything. Love and sexual arousal are two completely different things. Every vagina, regardless of its owner, will arouse any male who is 100% straight. It doesn't have to belong to the girl who he is in love with
sad just sad
@10dsw It seems like men don't even want to take a girl out on a date. I don't continue to talk to men who refuse to take me out on a date.
I dont even go out on dates with men
@ikissedtheskyonce Because after 25 they have been on 100 dates or more if they are decent looking. Dates become become boring after you've gone on enough of them. My friend equates them to getting a dental cleaning
@10dsw you seem like a good guy gone bad. js
@cthomas12 You described me well. I am completing my masters in applied math. I'm the biggest nerd in the world... I never dated in high school, let alone kissed. Only when I became a piece of shit did things change... for the better in my case
you keep on fucking and I'm gonna keep rocking solo
@cthomas12Lol to be honest I don't even care about fucking anymore. Porn is better than the real thing nowadays
um... I can't even find those.. loll
That's the thing. They're there. You just don't notice them because they're shy and keep to themselves. Like I said. You have to talk to them first.
If they won't speak neither will I
Why be stubborn though? Are you really willing to give up a good relationship just because his personalty is shy?
I have not met a shy guy yet.. Most most guys who approach me are looking for a f*ck. I don't waste my time on these guys. I'm a traditional woman. Seems gentlemens don't exist anymore
They do though! :) They're the shy guys!
I'm gonna continue to live my life and when I bump into one I will let you know
It's usually the guy off in the corner on his phone or just messing with a pen.
I work 35 hours a week. Deal with my kids. My life is busy.. really.
Kids will actually make it more difficult then. You might want to seek out a single father type.
It doesn't matter... I'm done
Well, good luck then.
You are a traditional woman? I wonder if you were one when you were in your 20's...
Yes I was, In school to be exact truthatanycost. Not everyone is a hoe 👌👏
oh my gosh yesssss
@alindrik_foxy yesssss to who and what?
the thing about the players. usually if a guy can talk really smooth around a girl, he has had lots of practice or he doesn't really have deeper feelings for her (aka actually liking her). if a guy really likes you, he'll be less smooth and more uncertain.
@alindrik_foxy And unfortunately, girls find guys who are unsure of themselves less attractive. So the shy guys gets ignored.
not really, at least not for me. I'm kind of introverted at times (60% of the time) and so a shy person wouldn't be as likely to get into my personal space when I'm especially introverted.
So she's supposed to do all the work? What is the fun in that? I personally would get frustrated if I was doing all the work, and the guy was too shy to even initiate a conversation with me. I have no problem approaching guys. But I can see how it would be frustrating to be the one having to carry the conversation all the time, and always ask the guy out on dates. I would think they weren't interested if they are not also pursuing me.
@Darkfairie17 How do you think guys feel when a girl plays hard to get or is too shy? Yet we're called assholes if we give up on her. Guys like to be chased to. Why do guys have to do all the work? It's supposed to be half and half. So for shy guys, the girl does the chasing in the beginning and once you've proven you're actually into them, they'll work their asses off to make you happy.
@darkfairie: I'm introverted too. I have my own personal space. just how I am.
Never said guys have to do all the work. Just simply said that I would also get frustrated if I was the one doing all the work. That has happened to me several times. I think if a person is serious about finding someone, they need to be willing to put themselves out there. That means whoever they are, they need to step out of their comfort zone. No one should expect people to approach them all the time or for another person to do all of the work.
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Just because someone is shy, does not mean they lack confidence.
@Darkfairie17 I believe it does.. I used to be very shy when I was younger because I did not have confidence in myself. Now that could be different in others, but if I was to take all of that into consideration, it would be very difficult to answer a question and thus no attempt of help..
My partners family is racist this is why we ended. My kids are mixed.
I like fkin give up
What's wrong with having standards?
I see gonna do the same