Guys, In all honesty, if you truly like a girl, does being too clingy even exist (unless it's crazy)? Do you care if they send multiple messages?

Question

I was telling my friend that all this game stuff is BS. If a guy likes you, then he likes you. It doesn't matter if you send him 3/4 messages in a row or call him it doesn't matter if you initiate.. as long as it isn't 50 messages in a row and asking where are you and stalking the guy. I mean reasonably.

Yes, if she is too into me I don't like it

Not really, no, if I like her then it doesn't appear that way

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Answer 1

watrewks

Xper 4

I think it'd be cute if a girl sent me a bunch of messages I think that would show she's excited and interested in talking to me. But as long as it's not excessive like 20 in a row that are multiple paragraphs with a million thoughts on one particular thing that she sends multiple times throughout the day.

Answer 2

genuinlysensitive | 431 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Yoda

What you described is not "too clingy" but yes it does exist. Getting upset after sending 3/4 messages and not getting a reply even though you know he is working, constantly texting and calling to find out where he is, demanding he always cancel plans when you are free, stuff like that.

Answer 3

Anonymous

I concur. It is bs.

If a guy likes you honestly he wants the girl to be initiating and texting him. I mean a girl texted me a 10 message reply. I loved it.

I wouldn't text a girl I don't like at all. So any girl I do, is better if she initiates and sends long messages/makes it easier to talk.

Only attention seeking women and pua's talk the bs rubbish about keeping short texts.

Answer 4

brain5000 | 217 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

You are basically saying that yes, it is quite possible to be too clingy, but you don't think your friend was that. Too bad it isn't up to you and your friend to decide.

Answer 5

AleDeEurope

Master

Being too clingy does exist, there's girls that won't even let you go throw the trash by yourself.
But sending multiple messages or texting first, calling, or whatever, isn't an issue.

Answer 6

FakeName123 | 1.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

There is no too into someone, but there certainly is being too clingy. That's when the desire to spend as much time as possible with your love-interest turns into a necessity. Aka removing your own private life or trying to remove his.

Answer 7

likitb4istickit

Xper 6

If she's not blowing up my phone (ie filling up my voicemail in an hour or 2 to where no one else can leave a message) or getting mad when I don't check in every hour then it's cool.

Answer 8

DanoM1 | 66 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

If I like a girl and she likes me as well, even if she's texting me 24/7, I'd like it. Where's the problem?

Answer 9

BertMacklinFBI | 5.2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

if both make it work or are seemingly okay with it, it doesn't matter.

Answer 10

cheeseNwine

Xper 3

i like clingey people. its genuiwne and it shows they had good parents to be honest

i think people are fucked up and the norm is godless unloving crap

Answer 11

NYkid27

Guru

I don't care if she's clingy as long as she doesn't want to know where I am and what I'm doing every second and want me to only spend time with her

Answer 12

BeastRB

Yoda

Clinginess would get annoying after a while no matter how much I'm into her.

Answer 13

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Xper 2

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Asker

+1 y
What's this? It's an email

Answer 14

Asker

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Answer 15

Shyrakeso

Xper 2

The clingier the better, but at some point in the relationship it got to stop.

Asker

+1 y
Well is this too clingy? I saw this guy Thursday. We like each other. I know it. He told me he was going to have a very busy weekend and he doesn't have a phone, he uses this tablet for facebook, and it glitches sometimes. I sent him a couple messages about a topic on Saturday. He didn't open it. Sunday night I sent a message just saying I enjoyed Thursday. He just opened it today and no response. I want to send him a message tomorrow just saying hey, like I'm free ___ if you want to hang out let me know. Is that too much?
Asker

+1 y
By saw each other I mean I hung out at his house for hours and hours
Shyrakeso

+1 y
It was not too much, but i would definitely wait with writing to him again until he replies, or it might be seen as too clingy. However if he likes you back, it would really make no difference. It depends on the guy. Good luck :)
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Asker

+1 y
Thanks! Would it be better if I waited a few days, like til Friday? Thing is, I think he thinks I'm out of his league so he isn't sure what to do with me
Shyrakeso

+1 y
If you are so sure you both like each other, wouldn't it be better to tell him how you feel? I know I would like you to do that if I felt you were out of my league. If you think it is too early just go with your plan. No need holding back if you think he likes you as well :)
Asker

+1 y
You're right. I'm just not 100% sure :b I don't want to come on fast and then have him retract. I once told a guy (after talking for a few weeks and meeting) that I liked him. I seriously just used the words "well I like you so I'd like to see you again" and he was weirded out, and replied "oh um like you too haha" like saying I liked him was too much?

Answer 16

Asker

Well is this too clingy? I saw this guy Thursday. We like each other. I know it. He told me he was going to have a very busy weekend and he doesn't have a phone, he uses this tablet for facebook, and it glitches sometimes. I sent him a couple messages about a topic on Saturday. He didn't open it. Sunday night I sent a message just saying I enjoyed Thursday. He just opened it today and no response. I want to send him a message tomorrow just saying hey, like I'm free ___ if you want to hang out let me know. Is that too much?

Answer 17

Asker

By saw each other I mean I hung out at his house for hours and hours

Answer 18

Shyrakeso

It was not too much, but i would definitely wait with writing to him again until he replies, or it might be seen as too clingy. However if he likes you back, it would really make no difference. It depends on the guy. Good luck :)

Answer 19

Asker

Thanks! Would it be better if I waited a few days, like til Friday? Thing is, I think he thinks I'm out of his league so he isn't sure what to do with me

Answer 20

Shyrakeso

If you are so sure you both like each other, wouldn't it be better to tell him how you feel? I know I would like you to do that if I felt you were out of my league. If you think it is too early just go with your plan. No need holding back if you think he likes you as well :)

Answer 21

Asker

You're right. I'm just not 100% sure :b I don't want to come on fast and then have him retract. I once told a guy (after talking for a few weeks and meeting) that I liked him. I seriously just used the words "well I like you so I'd like to see you again" and he was weirded out, and replied "oh um like you too haha" like saying I liked him was too much?

Answer 22

wajojoh

Xper 3

i dont mind. Cuz i love reading

Answer 23

Maxemeister

Master

I prefer it

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