I'm 22 and no man I've ever been with has wanted a relationship with me. I've been told I'm a great friend and fun to hang out with but I'm not relationship material. When I started having sex it changed to me being a great friend and great person to fuck but still not relationship material. They date me until it fizzles out and/or a girl they want to settle down with comes.
I would stick around anyway, hoping they would change their mind. I'm in this situation now. I stay because I'm glad someone wants to spend time with me even though I know I won't be good enough to be their girlfriend. I've become okay with this and let it keep happening. I want to change my mindset, as well as who I am as a person and make myself girlfriend material.
Most Helpful Guy
Don't stay with guys who don't want a relationship, simple. You're definitely a relationship material and if after doing all that they still leave, their loss. Be with someone who actually wants to be with you, you're not a "placeholder", you're a person and I'm gonna assume a really good one at that ^^. Don't settle for anything less than what you want. Don't just be someone's fuck buddy. Just make sure he is with you for the right reasons and only then think of sleeping with him. And the kind of guys you're describing are idiots, simple. If it was me, I'll stick around, if you can put in the effort to try, why can't I? Have more faith in yourself^^. Don't undervalue yourself or allow others to do it :).1
Most Helpful Girl
Don't settle. There's no "oh maybe if I sleep with him he'll like me more, oh maybe if I stick around it'll change into something more"
NO. That's not how things work. You want a relationship? Make it clear from the beginning that you want something real and you're not willing to settle and give yourself to a man who won't meet you halfway. Don't make yourself so available, there's a lot of great men out there so don't waste your time with men who aren't willing to commit to you.3