I've on a few occasions now become really interested in a guy only to find out he has kids a little ways down the road. Part of me gets really mad about this, because I feel like that's something that people should be up front about.
The other part of me respects that sharing that information is a personal decision--and oh well it won't work out, so I move on.
I don't want to be a freak who immediately asks people if they have kids but I almost feel like I'm going to have to. It's not fair to them or me to waste the time.
Most Helpful Guy
There is nothing wrong asking the guy if he has kids when you start a relationship. If we don't ask questions at the very beginning, we are foolish. Like you said, a waste of time if you don't. If the guy doesn't like that you ask questions, send him on his way. If you don't want to ask the question, tell him you do not want any children. Ask how he feels about that. A good man is going to say that he has kids. I've done online dating and every woman I talked to had questions for me and I them. I did this on the phone before even meeting. Stop over thinking because it just makes things seem worse than they are. Good luck!0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
Letting them know should be immediate... meeting them is what you should wait on. It really just saves the hassle to be honest about things like that.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE