Ok I'm asking because it seems at least 3 of my male friends have decided to stop talking to me because they now have girlfriends. D started to date a girl about 6 months ago and has basically started to ignore me. He only ever messaged me once in that to ask if I like him (his girl also asked the same thing). I don't as I have a long term boyfriend he knows about. And he's now continues to ignore me after I answered. And my friend T, has a girl as well. They've been together over a year but me and him only became friends 2 months ago. Well about an hour ago he kessaged me saying his girlfriend talked to their pastor about me (weird) and decided he can't b friends with me until he's closer to God (whatever that means), and he's like sorry but she gave me 2 options and clearly he picked the ditch me one. And my last male friend J has had a crush on me for like 5 years and I keep turning him down as I don't like him at all like that. And he got a girlfriend like 4 months ago I think and has like D started to ignore me and only messages me when he's either drunk or having a fight with his girlfriend. And apparently like the others she either thinks I like him or doesn't think I'm a good friend to him. My question is what's up with this because I was great friends with D and J be for their girlfriends came along and I don't understand T's explanation at all. Could someone please tell me what's happening and y it seems like these girls don't like me
Most Helpful Guy
First of all, I wouldn't have a problem with my girlfriend talking to other guys because I'm not a loser.
Second, it sounds like what's happening is that you are probably a very attractive/flirtatious girl. It may be true, maybe it's not. That might just be the word on the street. Who knows. The important thing is that those girls are scared of you and you make them feel insecure.
I wouldn't get mad at the guys, I'm not really sure what you could do about it. Sounds terrible. Honestly I'm a little annoyed for you haha.1
Most Helpful Girl
Here's the thing, D and J were interested in you romantically but you shot them both down. They went and got girlfriends. Now, you're right, they only do and will text you when they're drunk or in a fight w/the girlfriend. Because your still friendly. Which is good. SleAys be friendly. but don't be surprised if this trend continues. At your age especially, those girlfriends are very insecure so they lay down the law to the boyfriend about texting, talking with you or any other girls. People get more flexible and easy going as they get older but for now, unfortunately, you just have to deal with others insecurity about being friends with another girl.0