My friend and I started hooking up casually because we both just got out of really bad relationships and his was a 2 year relationship that ended really badly, so like neither of us were looking for anything serious. His ended a year ago but there was still a lot going on in the following 4 months. We've both been friends for like 2 years now and I helped him through his break up and he had always been there for me so we always had an emotional bond as well. After hooking up we started realizing we cared about each other more than just casually but agreed to not put a label on it because he'd be going abroad for his studies and he said if we put a label on it and it ends in one month it'll be bad because he'd still want to keep in touch, like I understand his hesitation to commit and I'm perfectly alright with where we are, we both talked it out and decided to just take it slow and see where it goes. But now all of a sudden he's started to talk and act differently, like before we'd spend all our time together but now he's always with his friends -we both agreed not to tell anyone about our arrangement because it's a bad idea like everyones friends with his ex it'd be messy- and he said it's because everyone would start getting suspicious but he rarely replies on text now like for days and when he does its really dry but when we meet outside of school where noone else is there he always teases me and acts normal and then I feel like nothings wrong. Once he saw me talking to a lot of guys and I don't know if he was trying to be chill because we were casual or what but I could tell it bothered him. I feel like he might be going through some stuff like he said I need my space sometimes and he's just being very lost and distant with everyone, I've asked him multiple times if somethings wrong or if we should just end it because he seems so disinterested now but he doesn't want to end it. I don't know what to do, I really feel like I care more than I should.
Most Helpful Guy
Don't end it, it sounds as if you need each other. He is going through a lot and his feelings for you are conflicting because he knows he wants you but it's a tricky situation he does not wish to ruin. Plus other things only he worries about.
Give him time is all. Take it slow.1
Most Helpful Girl
I wouldn't contact him for a couple days. Go distract yourself by hanging with other people. Have fun :) then after a couple days ask him if he's feeling any better. If he hasn't improved then say that your arrangement is being poisonous to your happiness and you need to do what's best for you.0