After not interacting for about a month we started hanging out platonically again but after about another month of doing that we ended up in this friends with benefits thing which I hated. Though our friends with benefits interactions were mostly us spending lots of time together hanging out and much less time and emphasis on the benefits.
Anyway this lasted till late September when I told him I wanted to try dating again and he said he wasn't looking to date but enjoyed spending time with me as a friend. I found that to be a huge slap in the face and didn't communicate with him for 4 months.
Until the other night when I drunkenly asked him to hang out and he did. We had a really good time I slept over but nothing physical happened between us because I'd stop him every time he tried which was like 10x.
He kept on bringing up how long it had been since we last hung out and how I never reached out to him but I said to him he could have reached out to me if he wanted to see me too. He said fair but didn't address why didn't. So does him even bringing that up mean that he wanted to see me and was too big of an idiot to contact?
Now I just kind of feel like I don't know what to do or expect next if anything. I guess my question is how do I build up a friendship without being too pushy and is there a chance he is still slightly interested or that he could become so again? And how to go about that as well?