So basically there's a girl you know pretty hot, seems into me (but) I recently just found out she has had sex before. It turned me off so dang fast, it got me like a truck (honestly I felt crushed inside). Even though I wasn't dating her at the time, finding that out was a deal breaker.
Is only dating virgins bad? Should I accept it (having the idea of someone else smacking her ass with his balls, gives me chills!)
Most Helpful Girl
Nearly all the guys from my culture think that way so I'm pretty sure that's normal.
You know what makes me wonder is if it would also be a turn off if she is dirty with you in bed but was really a full on virgin before she met you and just has a lot of fantasies she wants to share with you0
Most Helpful Guy
I feel like maybe you could benefit from better understanding that a woman is this independent spirit who goes where she pleases, does what she wants, and that body soap and mouth wash will effectively wash off all kinds of nasty things (not just sexually-related).
Like all of us they live in the moment and having a sexual partner before doesn't prevent them from falling in love. If they do that, all the partners before won't amount to squat.
It will help even if you stick to just dating virgins for whatever reasons.
You also don't want to get hung up if they break up with you on the image of them having sex with other guys than you afterwards. That can give you nightmares until you accept all of these types of things above.
These are the types of things that's best not to dwell on. Even with the purest type of virgins who never did anything remotely sexual whatsoever (not just hymen-related), you have to accept the fact that there might have been a time where the girl totally crushed on guys other than you. Again that's the type of thing that's best not to dwell on, but realize, and learn to accept.2
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